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reading men's body language? articles on reading men's body language

Why can't men read body language? Here's something I've noticed recently: When a girl moves a away from a guy it doesn't mean she wants him to move closer so why do some guys move closer. It seems like alot of guys cannot read body language. Why is this?

Books on Body Language of Love? Does anyone know a good book about body language that teaches you how to read men's body language.?? Or something to that similarity?

Reading Man's Body Language? My friend and a guy she dated for years still run into each other occasionally. Everytime he's around her he never makes eye contact. He'll look right beside her or at his hands, etc but never at her. Yet he always manages to accidentally brush up against her hands or accidentally touch her in some way. What do you guys make of this?

Reading his body language? I am wondering how someone would interpret a man's body language when he is sitting across from you, and while he is listening to what you are saying he is staring you in the eyes, and stroking his finger over his lips at the same time. What would be your interpretation?

Is it true that reading ur man's body language can make u know how he feels? i went to dinner with my friends and for the first time the guy that i really like was there too and he likes me too..i always talk to him online or on the phone he's usually very funny and talkative but that night he was very shy didn't talk at all, he was crossing his legs that looks very weird to me!! and everytime i look to him i see him staring at me and he quickly moves his eyes away... so we were acting like we don't know each other, i donno why he was doing that.any help plz? ps: he's a virgo if that helps.

How do you read a man's body language? There's this guy I really like and we had a fling like 10 months ago. I think he has feelings for me, but what body language signals could I look out for that will show me that he likes me?

Ladies...Can you read a man's body language? If you can...tell me this...What are the body language signs that he's attracted to you and wants to have sex with you and you just met him. (You both are walking down the street and you're approaching one another) What are things he does that let's you know that he's wanting to get it on even though you never met him. Regardless of whether you want to or not isn't the answer I'm looking for....it's irrelevant. I'm speaking about his signs of body language propositioning to you that he wants you and he wants you now. What would be some signs you would see in him?

based on men and their body language, could you tell he liked me?? EASY 10 POINTS =]]? so like a year ago me and these two guys were in this guy's living room talking when one of them went to the bathroom we're in high school and i had to take my chemistry regents the next day so i was cramming sitting on one side of the couch with this huge textbook lol right? the guy spreads out i don't know if his body was facing me or not but his legs were spread apart and i think he was looking at me and then he started tickling me then i find out like two weeks ago that he liked me did this in any way show in his body language? also he was leaning back and his arms were crossed behind his head which i read shows arrogance, confidence, superiority ...

Men's body language......? A guy asked me out for a coffee, we were talking a lot, standing quite close facing eachother. The place was busy, and I noticed that when female friends of his would come over and say hello, he would turn to face her, but whilst talking, sunconsciously turn his body back to face me, so just his head was facing her. Could this be a sign of interest in me, or instead a sign that he is not interested? I really like this guy, but he is a little shy and not so easy to read..... Thanks in advance....

Are you good at reading "female" body language? I thought I was. But now? I thought this girl liked me because I took it that she was flirting with me? She's always up in my face, smiling, touching me. Then I find out that she's married and I'm like ( o _ 0 ) What the?!?!? Maybe that's her way of being friendly? I dunno. I give up. I think women should say what they mean? Men think different from women. Maybe I "assumed" that she was flirting? Dude I have no idea any more about women! I give! ( ^ _ ^ ) I don't want to sound presumptious in my thinking that women who are touchy feely types are flirting. Some people are touchy feely types by nature. Men and women. Nothing wrong with it. : )

Is it true that white guys can't read body language as well as darker guys? It takes a type of THEORY OF MIND (advanced thinking) to be able to understand another person's thought processes above your own, does this mean that darker men are smarter than whiter men? by jack: sounds like you're a little sensitive. do you have a diapah rash or sumthin?

Is it possible to fake body language? I've known a man who, I know, had virtually only one wish - to have sex with me. What is disturbing me is his body language. I've read that particular signs, such as locking each other's fingers, touching with heads (not when kissing) etc., usually mean deeper feelings, not only physical attraction. I could think that he knows about these signs and deliberately shows them to me, however I'm almost100percent sure, he has no idea about body language... On the other hand, I'm also sure that all he feels for me is "sex, bed,f...". Maybe, except little sympathy.. Please, tell what you think about this.

Like Older Man- Can't Use Body Language to Read his Feelings? I know ya'll are prob. sick to death of "Does he like me questions," but I need help concerning an older man. I doubt he's attracted to me- or even could be. For starters, this is no petty age gap- it is huge. Also, I feel that I'm not attractive for my age- or at all. Plus, I'm not very responsible & I fear I may seem too childish for him because I'm so far behind in my life & have screwed up so much. I can carry on serious adult conversations, however, & I enjoy doing so. Also, we seem to converse well with one another & we actually have some things in common, despite the age difference. Problem- I don't know how to tell if he's interested in me. He's a physically demonstrative person, so a light touch from him is common practice & indicative of nothing. Also, like me, he maintains eye contact a lot- with everyone. Plus, he's friendly and talkative- sociable. So, it means little if he's talkative, maintains eye contact, & even touches me lightly. What else can I look for? P.S. This age gap makes it difficult to confess my feelings. I don't want to be seen as a silly little thing who has a "cute" crush on him. I'm more worried about rejection than usual thanks to the age gap. I also don't want to risk our friendship. If he liked me, he'd prob. be afraid to risk having me think he's a "dirty old man". I have thought of flirting, but need to be very inconspicuos about it. I don't want to be too obvious and scare him off as a friend if he isn't interested in more. Yet, I need him to get the hint if he is interested. P.S.S. When I said, "If he liked me, he'd prob. be afraid to risk having me think he's a 'dirty old man'," I meant he'd prob. be afraid to tell me he liked me for fear I'd think he was a dirty old man. So, even if we both liked one another, given the situation, we'd both prob. be afraid to admit it. Chances are he isn't interested in me, but it's driving me crazy wanting to know. I'm almost ready to blurt it out, but I know I'll end up rejected, embarrassed, and regreting opening my mouth.

Girls- body language? I keep hearing that girls can read a man's/boy's body language well and tell if they are confident, and have a belief in them self, or not. And apparently you find it attractive if they do appear comfortable in themselves, confident and cocky! Is this true? If so, what do you look for, how can I hold myself in this way? Any small details?

LADIES! I need your opinion!? Alright so here's the deal. I'm 23 years old, full time student and work part time at a bank. The bank is inside of a Safeway grocery store (i'm sure you've all seen those kind of banks inside grocery stores). Anyhow, there are three of us that work here and it's almost as though we are in a fishbowl because we just sit here all day in front of the computer people watching. There a TONS of beautiful women of all ages and nationalities that come to this grocery store because it is the only grocery store in town. There have been numerous times where girls will walk by and smile at me, there have even been instances where i've locked eyes with someone and my female co-workers are always telling me (since women are much better at reading body language than men) that they're interested in me and what not. So this is my question, how should I break the ice, in other words, what's a good ice breaker to use as they are walking by to use to get a conversation going? also, would it be too soon to ask for her number after the conversation is over? i've never hollered at any girls at work not because i'm afraid but simply because I don't know what to say. It's driving me CRAZY and i've had ENOUGH because I realize now that i've been passing up way too many great opportunities.

Body language - touching the head, hair? Just curious while reading separate books on body language which tell me two paradoxical things. If (in both cases) a man gently touches a woman's head/hair, either in a playful manner like putting a hat on her or messing with her hair or smoothing it... Is it generally interpreted/accepted as somewhat of a "flirting" or "intimate" sign - particularly if she lets him - is comfortable with him smoothing her hair/touching gently? Or something else? Cheers! :-) (PS - not sure how it would go "in reverse", the books only refer to a man touching a woman's head...not the other way)

*Women Only* Is a guy's body language important in dating and (sexual) attraction? They say that at least 80% of communication is non-verbal. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_language Is that true? How quickly do you decide if you're interested in a guy - or if you'd talk to him if he approached you? I'm asking in terms of general attraction and dating (or even for sex). So anywhere from a nightclub, to during the daytime. When you see a guy walk in, or first notice him - what are you looking for (aside from looks)? Think about things like the way he stands, how he looks at you - that 'vibe' you get from him. Is how a man communicates to you - without words - important to you? If a guy has poor body language, will you be attracted to him, or interested in him? Do you think that you can "read" his body language almost as soon as you see him. Just by looking at his clothes, the way he's standing and the way he's looking at you? Whether he's projecting charm and charisma or creepy stares or nervousness? What do you think ladies?

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Women, how well does this describe how you act around guys you're attracted to? If you don't mind me asking for advice, people say that women send men signals. I read about some body language signals, and if you're a woman I am wondering if you can relate to/agree any of this? I guess different women may send slightly different signals and not each one will apply to all women, but I'm just curious. So I thought I'd get opinions from women. Something I read, body language that is often supposed to be more subconscious than intentional, and even sometimes very brief: She may perk up/sit up straight when the man walks into the room, perhaps all of a sudden shoulders back and chest out. Or in some situations she may try an attractive pose. If two women are talking to each other and young, they may peek at the man and giggle or might even cuddle with each other and point. Older women may whisper to each other in a more sophisticated way. A woman feeling attracted may look "down and away" and then within the next minute look back at the man, as opposed to looking to the side or up and away. She may peek at the man over a book or something else she's looking at. She may give him repeated sidelong glances. When she notices the man, she may adjust her clothing or remove some like she thinks its warm in the room. She may let a shoe dangle on her foot or toes, which apparently isn't supposed to be as likely around a man she doesn't care about. She may try to subtly show off with her legs, perhaps pull her skirt up to show more leg or some other way to draw attention with them. She may raise her arm, putting her hand behind her head, and flash her underarm. We all have personal space zones, and she may stand or sit closer than one normally would. Or if not her body, she may do it with a limb or object she's using. She may try to innocently touch the man, maybe the hand or arm. Or if she can't do that she may try to lean toward him and into his personal space. She may tug or play with the jewelry she's wearing. She may rest her head on her knuckles with her palm facing toward the man rather than toward herself. She may try to expose her neck, or pull her hair aside in the process. She may primp in front of the guy. She may use a hand to caress herself while the guy's watching. She may play with her hair. If she's hanging out with the man, she may act goofy. She may also do a shoulder scrunch, acting like a little girl. She may try copying the man's body movements; when he moves to drink with one hand, she may try to mirror. If she's really into the man, she may lick her lips. She may use her finger to pet the rim of a bowl or the stem of a glass. While listening, she may stick a swizzle stick, spoon, etc in her mouth, or maybe a finger.

Body language of a man? If a guy sits like this, is it likely he's not interested in you? This guy friend of mine came over to talk to me at a party the other night. He sat down on the sofa beside me - on my left hand side. I noticed that he crossed his right leg over his left leg ie. away from me. I remember reading that if a guy is interested in a girl (or vice versa), they cross towards the person. Any opinions please? Of course I'm interested in him! In fact I gave him a hug when he sat down beside me....we've been chatting for months.

Ladies, men staring at your breast...? Some men (like me) don't make eye contact when I talk to people, it's not confidence thing, but I think better when i stare off, if I look into someones eyes I focus on reading their body language. So the question is, do you think some guys that you feel are staring at your chest are really just not looking you eye to eye and not oogaling you? I asked this because I been accused of this once, and I was appalled that she thought I was checking out her chest, especially because she was SOOOO Ugly and I have no sexual interest in here what so ever. Just because I am not making eye contract doesn't mean I am looking at your chest. With the girl I mentioned above I was looking more at to the right of her and I didn't have no grin on my face, I think if you are not paranoid you can tell if a guy is looking at your chest for lust or just staring off in space. Focus on the question, do you think you might have accused a guy for doing this when he really wasn't?

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Who here can ready body language (Yep, it's a "how do I know if she likes me?" question. Sorry)? Basically - a girl I knew VERY distantly from uni got in touch with me over Facebook a few months back, and we had darn fine emailage. I should probably say that this is a girl who, on my last week at uni, I emailed just bluntly asking to sleep with her. I'd met her twice and hardly spoken to her; I felt I had nothing to lose. She said no. You can imagine my surprise at striking up a really good friendship with her. So, now she's moved back into the country, pretty much up the road from me, and we've hung out a bit. I've fallen completely in love with her. It sucks. I'm utterly unable to read her. I definitely flirt with her, but I don't know if she's flirting back. She tends to lie on my bed, quite unrestrictedly, when we're hanging out. But hey, beds are comfortable. She occasionally touches me, on the arm or whatever, and got me to touch her face to see if her glands were swollen. She said she misses sex, yet also likes it when men can be platonic. I've occasionally texted her compliments in Polish, which hopefully she went and translated, and she called me a magician in . . . I think Afrikaans, though I can't find the translation anywhere (the apparent Afrikaans translation means "soon", which confused me somewhat). I'm aware how pathetic it all sounds, but I'm smitten and desperate. Come on, internet! Is she just one of those girls that's naturally flirty or is she waiting for me to do something? I'm going to 'fess all to her soon, but . . . despite this being a question with an easy answer, or indeed any real answer . . . anyone else got any similar experiences that ended well? Is this suggestive body language or just nothing? She's incredible in every way. I have to find out. This is for all you people in love out there. Hurts, don't it? We have to share the wealth to survive :)

What does it mean when a shy guy shakes me hand? There is a guy I sort of like who is really shy. (added note, I get extremely nervous around shy and quite people and I tend to speak really fast and ramble or not speak at all--usually just with men) Anyway, I am pretty good with reading body language but I just can't get a handle on his body language. I was getting used to this and then one day after we were talking (mostly me :/ ) and getting ready to part ways, he shakes my hand. He has never done this before, I have never seen him shake anyone else's hand before. I am confused. Usually handshakes are when you first meet someone or in a meeting. I don't want to read anything in to it, but I have no idea what it means. Was the handshake a brush off or a "I like you but I am too shy to say it" or "hey friend", etc. I asked a friend and she was just as confused as I was. Anyway, his handshake was firm (but not the crushing kind) and brief, and then we went our ways. So I ask, what does it mean when this shy guy shakes my hand? Thank you for your help! Added note, we have known each other for almost three years.

I Need help reading this girl I like.? Ok so there is this girl I met in Child Developement class a few months back, and like it's the first class of the semester and boom we're friends. I like her already and already start hinting at it. So we begin flirting. Ex: Longer hugs than usual, lots of compliments, and staring at each other for long amounts of time. And well I've always wanted to get with her, and I knew I had a chance because she would shoot back such strong signals but it was still kinda vauge. For instance one day we where sitting in a computer room and as she got up she stared at me.. I was still sitting and I was at about her chest, and I Just stood there and stared at her. We stared for what seemed like forever and then she slowly went down to my face, and I wanted to go in but I read her body language. So i didnt go in for this kiss she went in for the hug. Hope its not confusing already.. Well thats the relationship we had up until now which summer has just started and we are on summer break. And not too long into break she gives me her number over myspace. And well we started talking about how we need to hang out and everything. ( We've hung out once before out of school but by total luck and chance. Sparks really flew that day :D ) Anyways, we start talking more and we really completely unveil each others feelings to each other. She says that shes always had a crush on me and has wanted me for the longest time. (quote) And I told her how Ive liked her even before Child developemnt. (My cousin tried dating her but failed. and hes way better looking than me which is weird) Oh and btw did i say this chick is GORGEOUS I mean seriously. Im not trying to be all low self esteem or anything. I think IM decent at best, and shes gorgeous. A dime!!! OK so moving along, like I said shes always been kinda hard to read, and I think to myself "why would she be interested in me" out of all guys. It just feels weird. And well after I told her how I felt I asked if she watned to hang out THIS COMING SATURDAY. She said yes, and she expects a kiss that day. I said no probbb. But I havent talked to her in about a day or two. She hasnt texted or anything which is starting to worry me. I have this strong feeling that we arent going to hang. Which totally suck! Cuz this is all Ive been looking forward to since Sophmore year (Gonna be a senior) . I dont know how IM going to get a ride too blah.. So yea helpp .. I guess mans greatest weakness is DOubt huh. I'm thinking about taking her to see the new Karate kidd movie with me lol.

Any thoughts or advice from the men out there? I'm 21 and I've never been in love. I thought I was, more than once, but people who are obviously in love told me that..."you just know." I'm a hopeless romantic, but at the same time extremely picky. I'm also very hard on myself, because of my background I never feel like I deserve what I want. Am I doomed to be alone? Now... There's this man. He matches everything on my list. I'm best friends with his sister (yikes), and we spend a lot of time together. I'm really into him and sometimes feel that he is into me, but my doubt gets the best of me. I try to show no signs of interest for proprieties sake. I'm very traditional and will do nothing until it is certain that he likes me, and even then I believe that it is up to him to make the first move. His sister knows about my "crush" and says that I'm obvious but that there is no way he knows or suspects anything. She also says that she thinks he is indifferent, but could be wrong. We have mutual friends and one day last week I was with one of them and ran into the man in question. After our encounter she asked if there was anything romantic going on, and if not there should be because he was into me. I asked why she would say that and she said...."I read his body language." He never touched you, besides a poke or two. (signifying that he wants contact with you, but is afraid too much would be either inappropriate or would ignite too much emotion.) Everytime you tried to end the conversation and leave, he would bring up something mundane to talk about even though on more than one ocassion he said that he had somewhere to be. Even though our other friend was there his attention was on me... He smiled a lot, and even blushed. She said, "At the least there is definite attraction." Sometimes he IMs me online, but I always make the conversations quick. I rarely IM him first because I don't want appear to be interested. Once he sent me a video clip of Casablanca, and often he comments on mundane thngs like my picture or status. Still i'm not convinced. I think he's just nice, polite, and socially outgoing. I don't understand the male brain, or the females. How can I act to encourage him (if he is into me at all) without being inappropriate. I try to compliment him on ocassion, NEVER touch him. Try not to pay too close attention to him. Rarely talk about him. I do giggle too much around him (much to my embarrassment) and smile a lot. Anyways, that's the ramblings of my giggling female brain. Your input and advice is both reespected and expected! Thank you!

Where can I meet abusive men? I am ACTIVELY seeking such a man in my life? I am going to be completely honest. I LOVE abusive men. No, I am not those girls who gravitate towards abusive guys unknowingly or because of low self-esteem, etc. No, I LOOK for them. I even have a list of standards: -has to be a complete jackass/selfish -has to make me cry at least once a week -has to have a minimal criminal record at least (sincerely hoping for a murder record, but as long as he doesn't murder me) -has to do drugs and alcohol -has to have different girls every week, so I know I definitely don't mean anything to him -has to play me/use me -has to be abusive in some way (emotional is preferred!) -has to talk down to me and make me feel inferior, stupid, like **** compared to him (so a sexist in some way, believing in gender specific roles) My ultimate goal is to find an abusive/controlling husband. I only found one guy who I could check off each item. I loved it. I went back every time, despite the fact he stole my Ipod, ripped me off for weed, etc.. I want to marry a man like this who will let me decorate his house, etc. in exchange for treating me like this. I also have no intention of having kids as I am getting my tubes tied at 25, so no worries about them suffering any negative impacts (I will spare them). I can't do it now as no doctor will take me seriously as I just barely turned 18. Why did I go back? Because every time, I got a chance to worship him. I loved the smirk he had on his face each time I sucked up to him, like he owned me; I was hooked. That is all I want. A guy like these standards I have and who will let me worship him. (Yes, logically, I am aware of what feminist theories would have to say about this.) I don't want to be his girlfriend at all; that doesn't interest me. I just want him to be mean as it keeps me coming back for more and I just love worshipping a guy like this. Unfortunately, it's hard to find guys like this so I'm working on displaying excessive signs of passivity/unassertiveness as I hear this attracts abusers. In general, I am reading a book on body language to master this art and find this man. But where can I meet men like this? I have done extensive research on signs of potential abusers so I can spot one and suck up to him so he'll keep me around for more. But where can I find them? I need one now so I can devote my time to him only and hopefully marry him as soon as possible. I don't plan on having kids as I am getting my tubes tied at 25, so no worries about them suffering any negative impacts. I can't do it now as no doctor will take me seriously as I just barely turned 18. I am going about this search in a responsible way. I AM NOT JOKING.

Where can I meet abusive men/thugs? I WANT one so badly in my life!? I am going to be completely honest. I LOVE abusive men. No, I am not those girls who gravitate towards abusive guys unknowingly or because of low self-esteem, etc. No, I LOOK for them. I even have a list of standards: -has to be a complete jackass/selfish -has to make me cry at least once a week -has to have a minimal criminal record at least (sincerely hoping for a murder record, but as long as he doesn't murder me) -has to do drugs and alcohol -has to have different girls every week, so I know I definitely don't mean anything to him -has to play me/use me -has to be abusive in some way (emotional is preferred!) -has to talk down to me and make me feel inferior, stupid, like **** compared to him (so a sexist in some way, believing in gender specific roles) I don't want a nice guy (BORING!!!) as I am already a too nice person. I want a thug/abusive guy/criminal. I am SERIOUS. Where can I find guys like this? I don't want them as a boyfriend but someone I can hang around with as my life is so boring and I'm looking for intense bursts of adventure/excitement. Like I said, I don't want to be his girlfriend at all; that doesn't interest me. I just want him to be mean as it keeps me coming back for more and I just love worshipping a guy like this. So far, only three guys in my life have come close to my standards. Unfortunately, it's hard to find guys like this so I'm working on displaying excessive signs of passivity/unassertiveness as I hear this attracts abusers. In general, I am reading a book on body language to master this art and find this man. But where can I meet men like this? I have done extensive research on signs of potential abusers so I can spot one and suck up to him so he'll keep me around for more. But where can I find them? I need one now so I can devote my time to him only. I AM NOT JOKING. I'm 18 BTW.

Where can I meet abusive men/thugs? I am ACTIVELY seeking such guys? I am going to be completely honest. I LOVE abusive men. No, I am not those girls who gravitate towards abusive guys unknowingly or because of low self-esteem, etc. No, I LOOK for them. I even have a list of standards: -has to be a complete jackass/selfish -has to make me cry at least once a week -has to have a minimal criminal record at least (sincerely hoping for a murder record, but as long as he doesn't murder me) -has to do drugs and alcohol -has to have different girls every week, so I know I definitely don't mean anything to him -has to play me/use me -has to be abusive in some way (emotional is preferred!) -has to talk down to me and make me feel inferior, stupid, like **** compared to him (so a sexist in some way, believing in gender specific roles) I don't want a nice guy (BORING!!!) as I am already a too nice person. I want a thug/abusive guy/criminal. I am SERIOUS. Where can I find guys like this? I don't want them as a boyfriend but someone I can hang around with as my life is so boring and I'm looking for intense bursts of adventure/excitement. Like I said, I don't want to be his girlfriend at all; that doesn't interest me. I just want him to be mean as it keeps me coming back for more and I just love worshipping a guy like this. So far, only three guys in my life have come close to my standards. Unfortunately, it's hard to find guys like this so I'm working on displaying excessive signs of passivity/unassertiveness as I hear this attracts abusers. In general, I am reading a book on body language to master this art and find this man. But where can I meet men like this? I have done extensive research on signs of potential abusers so I can spot one and suck up to him so he'll keep me around for more. But where can I find them? I need one now so I can devote my time to him only. I AM NOT JOKING. I'm 18 BTW.

Do any other girls here besides me love abusive men? I mean, LOVE it as in ACTIVELY SEEK THEM OUT? I am going to be completely honest. I LOVE abusive men. No, I am not those girls who gravitate towards abusive guys unknowingly or because of low self-esteem, etc. No, I LOOK for them. I even have a list of standards: -has to be a complete jackass/selfish -has to make me cry at least once a week -has to have a minimal criminal record at least -has to do drugs and alcohol -has to have different girls every week, so I know I definitely don't mean anything to him -has to play me/use me -has to be abusive in some way (emotional is preferred!) -has to talk down to me and make me feel inferior, stupid, like **** compared to him (so a sexist in some way) My ultimate goal is to find an abusive/controlling husband. I only found one guy who I could check off each item. I loved it. I went back every time, despite the fact he stole my Ipod, etc.. even wrote a question on him... check it out: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AjiU_68Gpayfb3D9_.12plHty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20091001085452AAHB8Y0 Why did I go back? Because every time, I got a chance to worship him. I loved the smirk he had on his face each time I sucked up to him, like he owned me; I was hooked. That is all I want. A guy like these standards I have and who will let me worship him. (Yes, logically, I am aware of what feminist theories would have to say about this.) I don't want to be his girlfriend at all; that doesn't interest me. I just want him to be mean as it keeps me coming back for more and I just love worshipping a guy like this. Unfortunately, it's hard to find guys like this so I'm working on displaying excessive signs of passivity/unassertiveness as I hear this attracts abusers. In general, I am reading a book on body language to master this art and find this man. I don't plan on having kids as I am getting my tubes tied at 25, so no worries about them suffering any negative impacts. I can't do it now as no doctor will take me seriously as I just barely turned 18. I am going about this search in a responsible way.

Men's legs.? I am reading a book on body language. In it is a section on parts of the male body women find attraction. The three main being the Butt, Chest, and legs. I myself love to display my legs, and have gotten compliments from women about them, however according to this source and others, women are only interested in men's legs as a show of male power (what ever that is). But in our culture men's legs are hidden for the most part under baggy pants. Would ladies like to see more of the male physique if the subject has a good build? Would tighter more revealing clothing on fit men be a plus? Or should men continue hiding under oversized clothing as if our bodies are disasters?

MEN- how would you feel? Ok you're a mature guy (let's say late 30s early 40s) and a girl in her early 20s asks you out. You're attracted to her, but would it put u off that she asked u? I know a lot of men say they'd love to be asked out, but i read on a body language site that it's because they interpret it as meaning that the girl is sexually available. Because of his job he can't ask me out (he's my personal trainer) so the ball is in my court if i want something to happen. The trouble is i'd be interested in seeing if we could develop a relationship, i don't just want a fling or one night stand, but if i asked him out u think he'd take it that way?

What does it mean when a guy puts his leg up on a chair while talking to you? I know it's to look more macho / dominant. (I've read body language books before, and know that men/boys like to show dominance.) However, what does it mean? Does it mean he finds you attractive? Does it mean he thinks you're cool enough to be inducted into his "possy"? Does it mean he's intimidated? Does it mean he's not threatened at you at all and just feeling confident and relaxed? This was in church. He put his foot on the pew seat, so it must have been subconcious lol. He seemed like a good Chrisitan guy (tall and decently built, good-looking, wearing one of those fuzzy beanies with ears and strings down the sides so I take it he's a friendly chill-out guy lol).

Is playing with your breasts in front of a man a sexual act? When a woman sits there in front of you and plays with her breasts. As in, puts her hand in her top and fiddles with her breasts, is this a sexual act? Why would she do this and what would be running through her mind? I read on a body language website that '' Touching the breast(s) draws further attention to it. When a woman does this in front of a man it makes the man think of doing this and is thus a highly suggestive and flirtatious act.

What are you opinions on these tips?? 1. It's OK to suggest a drink instead of dinner for a first date. She dreads a potentially boring, four-course ordeal, too! 2. Always call her by early evening on Tuesday to confirm a Wednesday get-together -- it's the polite thing to do and it lets her know you're already thinking about her. 3. Be sure to leave both your home and work phone numbers. If you don't leave your home number, she might assume you have a wife or girlfriend. If you don't leave any number, she'll wonder what game you're playing. 4. If you want to keep the plans a surprise, at least “clue her in as to what to wear” clue her in as to what to wear. You do not want an overdressed, overstressed woman navigating in high heels on a sunset beach walk. 5. Always listen to what she has to say, and make sure you wait until she's done talking before responding. 6. Don't assume that just because you're out with a beautiful woman, she knows how pretty she looks -- she wants to hear it from you. Don't go overboard, though, or she might think you're insincere. 7. Men judge women according to whether they can picture having sex with them; women judge men by whether they can imagine kissing them. White teeth, fresh breath, great shoes, cell phone turned off, and unchapped lips make her more apt to lock lips with you that night. 8. Do not ask her, "So, what kind of music do you like?" The last 10 guys asked that. Be original and instead fill your iPod with a great mix of music that expresses your style. 9. Tip well. Believe me, she'll be watching. 10. Reading body language is simple: If she touches your arm, she's interested. If she touches your leg, she's interested tonight. If she leans away from you the whole night, she is not interested at all. 11. Very small gestures go a long way and show her you're a gentleman. When you drop her off at her house, be sure to wait the extra 30 seconds while she gets inside (and next time you might be going in with her!). 12. Women need momentum. Without it, they lose interest or wonder if you have lost it, too. Follow up with a phone call the next night. Even more important, ask her out at the end of the date. Don't play games or wait. 13. Never look at another woman when you are on a date. If she catches your wandering eye, you are done. they are... 13 Keys to a Perfect First Date i think they are kinda bogus. especially 11 What happened to walking her to the door?? Or maybe you could just slow down the car to a crawl, reach over and open the door so she can jump out... they arent all bad

Playing with your breasts in front of a man a sexual act? When a woman sits there in front of you and plays with her breasts. As in, puts her hand down her top and begins to cup and fiddles with her breasts, is this a sexual act? Why would she do this and what would be running through her mind? I read on a body language website that '' Touching the breast(s) draws further attention to it. When a woman does this in front of a man it makes the man think of doing this and is thus a highly suggestive and flirtatious act.

How to stop girls thinking you're husband material? ‘I have been meaning to tell you that you are the guy of my dreams. I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I would imagine how great our relationship is and how amazing the sex is. I would think of all the romantic things that you would do just for me and how all other girls would be jealous of what we have. I keep thinking about how we would end up having 3 children and live in this big house in the countryside. You would have a good job and I will be looking after the kids. We will all be happy and carefree!’ ‘Wow, I don’t know what to say except, who are you?’ Rather comical. I can understand on some level all women want this in their lives with the right sort of guy, but I don’t think it’s conventional to think of this sort of thing before you even introduced yourself! Firstly to get to my problem, I am the sort of guy most of my female friends (and female friends of male friends, strangers, etc.) would say they would like to ‘settle down with’. Now, knowing how girls like to hint things at guys and how they like using double standards, using it with extreme skill, I don’t think it’s something they meant for us to take lightly! The problem is that I don’t have the problem with the odd girl, it’s quite a lot of them (a lot = pretty much all those who are single, uni students and in their early 20s). You don’t have to spend years learning to read body language or look into women’s psychology to understand what it is on their minds. Most girls I come across just have that look that pretty much spells it all out indirectly (in my case, in bold, letters that really stands out and really in your face). Don’t get me wrong; I would like to settle down and raise a family, SOMEDAY. I do get put off by this, despite being mature enough to keep ignoring it and trying to understand this on some level. I can understand if you don’t believe this or think I’m big-headed (that means ‘arrogant’ in British English). To be fair, I don’t give sod all if you don’t; it’s not my job here to convince you that this is true. What I want solved is how to stop women thinking like this; I want to have a descent dating life before I settle down. I want to get to know the person before they start nagging me like a malicious housewife. As with dating personalities, this sort of behaviour is solvable. Think about it; some men do something so stupid to put off women that they get turned down a lot. If they didn’t do the thing that was repelling the women, they would get accepted more. In fact, if they did something extra that really hit the spot; they can pretty much get any girl. This is one of those problems (I should know, I looked into women’s psychology). The no d’uh solution is to stop doing those things that makes them think of you that way. Excellent idea, what are those things? On one level I want to be attractive in the dating sense. One another level, I don’t want to be so attractive I’m virtually husband material, just yet anyways (I'm only 23 ffs). What is the stuff in between? If you can’t provide any help solving this problem or throwing insults, don’t bother; you’re wasting my time and your time on here (along with quite a few thumbs down). If you do manage to put anything descent and useful, it will be much appreciated. Thanks in advance.

HOW DO YOU KNOW IF A GUYS INTO KINKY SEX? I don't have a problem with "making love" but I want my man to take advantage of me in bed. I like that type of shit. So how do I know if he's into the same thing? Is there a way to read body language or something? P.s. I'd rather not ask it spoils the excitement

where do I go from here? I work in a busy environment, there's a female colleague I fancy there, and have the gut feeling she likes me too, by the smiles/blushes, prolonged eye contact etc. I anonymously sent her a small present, from 'an admirer', I put it in her tray. We both are mates with a male colleague, and he's caught me looking at her a few times, and I know him well enough to feel myself being scrutinised, and he's smiled discreetly at me, she happened to ask me today if I'd heard anything about anyone leaving her a present, I said I hadn't heard a thing! I got the feeling she was trying to get a reaction, I wanted to say it was me, but am too shy and lacking in confidence to admit it, in case I've read her body language all wrong, I know men very well, as up until 18 months ago I always considered myself straight, and it's obvious when they fancy a woman, but even though I'm sure she 'likes' me, I'm scared in case I'm wrong and make a fool out of myself, I don't know where to go from here, any ideas please? Apart from close friends, no one knows I have bisexual feelings, my best mate, a chap, who doesn't work where I do, reckons I should just admit it was me, but I just can't!

LGBT, is intelligence a turn on for you too? I'm attracted to smart men. NOT ''geeky'' men or the nerdy types. It's quite tough to explain... I mean intelligent men who are smart emotionally as well as academically. My boyfriend can read my emotions really well, and to me, that sort of understanding is attractive. His social intelligence, being able to read my body language... it's just so hot to me. What are *your* turn ons? Don't be ashamed to admit them, we all have different tastes. :-D xx

What should I do? Infatuated with a married man who is my teacher? I am in college and I have a teacher that I have an extreme crush over. I'm 21 years old and am mature enough to know not to do anything about it because I know it's mainly infatuation and I guess I have a thing for older men(he's 33). He is happily married and extremely professional, it's weird because sometimes I can't even keep eye contact with him because I feel like he can see right through me and also he reads body language like no other person I know. He has told me I was really pretty and I literally stopped breathing but pretended like I didn't even hear him and when I think about it Now I wish I would have at least thanked him for the compliment! Anyway my question is how do I get over this feeling? : / I am not a home wrecker and would never ever flirt with a married man and he would never flirt with me but I feel like its affecting the way I act around him. Should I just drop the class? It's little frusturating. Btw when he sad i was very pretty it was not in a way that made me feel like he was hitting on me it was said because I told him I work at a restaurant that is open very late at night because it's located right across a bunch of bars and he said wow that's great, you can make good money that way with tips since you're really pretty. Just making it mote clear.

What should I do? I'm infatuated with a married man who is a teacher? I am in college and I have a teacher that I have an extreme crush over. I'm 21 years old and am mature enough to know not to do anything about it because I know it's mainly infatuation and I guess I have a thing for older men(he's 33). He is happily married and extremely professional, it's weird because sometimes I can't even keep eye contact with him because I feel like he can see right through me and also he reads body language like no other person I know. He has told me I was really pretty and I literally stopped breathing but pretended like I didn't even hear him and when I think about it Now I wish I would have at least thanked him for the compliment! Anyway my question is how do I get over this feeling? : / I am not a home wrecker and would never ever flirt with a married man and he would never flirt with me but I feel like its affecting the way I act around him. Should I just drop the class? It's little frusturating. Thanks.

Men....... I read this article and have cut and paste some of what it said & wanted to know if it's true & why? First, do women often forget that most men are just plain nervous or scared when it comes to approaching attractive women, talking, and getting things started? Is it true that men are looking for direct and indirect signals to tell him what he needs to know about a woman before he even gets involved with her, and those signals are listed below: 1. Physical Health - Men are often attracted to women of a certain physical size, shape, etc., in general. But do you know exactly why this is? It's not because these sizes and shapes "look better." It's because men are wired to identify signs of Fertility and Youth in women. And the good news here is that a perfect hip to waist ratio is NOT the only way to indicate to a man that you are "Youthful" and "Fertile." Personal "energy", attitude, body language, and fashion can all act as indirect indicators of these things as well. 2. Emotional Well-Being - It's no secret that men like to make fun of women for being too "emotional." And while this is in part fun, this common male habit shows the existence of something deeper - that among men there is a strong belief in the importance of an emotionally "stable" woman. Men who are interested in relationships are EXTREMELY critical of how a woman handles herself and her emotions, because to them it says everything about how a woman will be when they're close and connected and what's in store for him. 3. Sense of Humor - This is the most subtle determinant of how a man will see a woman. When a woman is funny, laughing, or making jokes, it's an indication of her high level of self-esteem and social status. When a man sees a woman smiling or laughing, or when a woman is funny and playful with a man, it lets a man know on a subconscious level that she is someone he can respect, “An equal”. And this can make a woman VERY desirable.

I'm 16 just last year, anyway I got a book? about how you can read body language and stuff (this was when I was 15) and I read about the limp wing (that's were you bring your arm up to your chest and let your wrist go limp) and it said that only girls and gay men use it. and well I'm a guy and I do do that (weird when I saw I did that) and I was like omg and I never really had a date and stuff (never not even close) well now I'm sure I'm gay and I came out to my sister and she's was ok with it but we started to talk and she said I'm the most non-gay like gay guy she new. she says I don't acted gay and stuff. well my Question is.. Can you be gay and not act like a girl???

i need help with this girl!? Okay so here it goes MAN!!!! i've been thinking of this girl that i like since i first saw her. She is freaking adorable and many have told me that she's about a 5 from a scale from 1-10 but, i say she's a god damn 10!! I first met her in social 101 and i looked at her almost everyday( i'm not a creep :/ ) first time we were in a group she was some what red when i talk to her but wasnt sure. Now i have her for english 104 and math 101 and sometimes i see her staring at me and she doesnt really sit still when she;s around me. Help D: i'm painfully terrible at reading body language ladies or dudes :/ and it doesnt help that i sound like a god damn chipmunk around her haha!! she's a shy girl herself.

Why women smile at male strangers? I was reading on a body language website that 'A real smile says, "I like you. I am happy to see you." A smile is a very powerful tool for flirting. A woman's smile, with eye contact, is seen by a man as an immediate invitation for much more closeness.' What is meant by 'much more closeness', could or does it mean SEX?

why do men invade womens' personal space? i met a guy recently and right away as we started talking, he stood really close to me. he turned to face me and was listening very intently and stood really close - i want to say only a foot or less away from me? i'm from the midwest and usually in casual convo we give more space than that ! i noticed it right away and although it didn't bother me too bad and i didn't step away, i though it was a little odd. do men do this on purpose to give you the signal they are interested or something? i'm just not sure what it meant. i read a few things about body language and they mostly said people do this type of thing in order to dominate another person. i myself never get inside another person's space unless i know them really well - but maybe that's just me. :)

do you believe in psychics? read my story....? I went to a psychic the other day and i came out shocked. It was like she knew me better than i know myself.she had every little tiny detail perfect about me. She was even doing impressions of things i say, and what people say about me. She said something like "she's quiet like her father, she even looks like him", which i found very weird since my whole extended family say that! She knew that i had broke my leg 4 years ago, and i was with 2 of my friends, she described them and said that id stay friends with the small blond one 4 the rest of my life. This is true so far, i can see it. She asked did my dad loose out on or decline an inheritance (which he did years ago because he had no intention of moving into the house), and she said it was the best decision he ever made because she said his sisters are bitchy and money grabbing (true). She also knew that i had slight reproductive problems and told me not to have more than 2 children coz it would be dangerous to have more. I don't see how she could have known these things by guessing...? Fair enough, she might have guessed things about my personality by reading my body language but can she really be that accurate? Sceptics are telling me that she could just be a very deceptive person, but if she is then how could she know all that random stuff? Since everything she said was so accurate it makes me believe what she said about my future....il have two boys, work in forensics related to the police or the army...she could see the structured uniform. (background information- im in my 1st year of a physics degree, i told her that though) She told me that i like mature men, so my husband will be max 10 years older than me, he'll be foreign (spanish or french she thinks, which is weird coz i love france), he'll be very intelligent and the top of his job (also weird coz intelligence is one of the traits i look 4 in men), and we'll have a deep mind connection. Give me your honest opinions about all this! I'm a dreamer so i really want to believe it, but in another way im afraid that i'll be influenced too much by it, i.e iv already started looking up postgrads in forensics! (i always have found it very interesting though!) Just tell me any similar stories and what you make of all of this! Thanks! :) Did ANY of ye actually read the story? She isn't a "famous" psychic, i just heard from a lot of people she was good so i went. I honestly said about 5 words in there. didn't reveal anything, and i never nodded...just listened....now read it, and answer!!! Also, she went waaaay over the time for the same money.

Wives, how would you cope with a husband with Asperger's Disorder? I have a high functioning type of autism called Asperger’s Syndrome. I have deep emotions, but have almost no ability to read body language, facial expressions and the other non-verbal ways that people communicate their feelings. This neurological disorder is a problem in my relationships with my wife and children because I’m perceived as a being cold and unfeeling … as hyper-rational and overly analytical … even for a man. In short, I come across as scary to most people (male and female). As wives, if you knew your husband really loved you, how would you communicate your emotional needs to a husband like me? thedrisin We've been married 30 years, and we have 10 children (6 sons & 4 daughters). Two of my sons seem to have my disorder. Our family business involves about 80% international travel for me; so my wife and I have never pursued couple's counseling. About 20 years ago, I went to conselling for one year on my own ... just to figure out why I kept getting fired from jobs for 'not fitting in'. My performance was never an issue; but, the last time I was fired, my employer told me that I had a personality disorder. He recommended a great counselor who got me journaling and learning how to identify and own my own hurts and fears. This helped my wife with me, but it didn't really help me understand my wife. As time passed and our family grew, she developed what we call a 'secret garden' where she'd go for emotional survival. Finally, in mid-life (44 yrs), it became a 'not-so-secret garden' (smile). Our family almost fell apart. Betrayed and feeling demonized by typical female mid-life triangulation (and struggling with misogyny) had an interesting affect on me. I began to write poetry and understand my own dreams as well as those of others. So, I gave my wife this poem that broke the dead lock between ‘us’. My Anima Feb 12, 2006 Oh where have you gone, Dearest mother of mine? I know what you feared, From your body in time. To find a good seed, Needed for my design. Hold close to me now, Until morning does shine. Read words while I sleep, My dreams always should hear. I long for your voice, Your soft breath in my ear. Black jungles call out. When you cannot be near. Dear mother of mine. My heart’s desert is clear. Your hand went so cold, When your job was not done. I play at your grave, I still laugh, sing and run. Oh mommy of mine, Come back now to your son. To finish your work, Please send me someone. The hand of your soul, Touched so gently today. A girl with a smile, Felt my heart made of clay. All in a sweet touch, Not a word did we say, Her fingers in mine, Swept me so far away. Her vessel of flesh, Sails a sea of moonlight. The mist if her breath, Is the taste of delight. Her sails full of life, Mend my black into white. Her eyes are the stars, That navigate our night. She is wet and wild, Like the rain in a storm. She’s a lamp of light, In the home that we’ve born. You have one of us, With your name on her form. Our pure baby girl, Now with you in new form. An oasis of life, Is this woman God gave. To break down my law, To show grace and to save. Where no moth or worm, Can destroy what we’ve made. I’ll love all of you, Better after the grave. Regardless of my poetic ability, this poem openned a new channel of communications for us. As we wrote poetry to each other, we both felt revived in 'us'. I think its important to understand that even though I'm mind-blind - I can definately sense a person's feelings through their music and poetry. I've not seen this documented anyhere in dealing with Aspergerger's Disorder. But, the truth is that some written and verbal communications have emotional content. OK ... this isn't convenient for everyday life. But, this is an important finding in helping an Aspi husband meet the emotional needs of his wife. Have you seen this before?

Am I sex addict without doing the act of sex(immediate help needed)? I have always been abnormally curious about the human body. I read many many books, that all at some point mention romance or describe sexual acts or just simple thoughts of a character. I've always been very interested in sex. Women are beautiful creatures, men are beautiful creatures. I can acknowledge a woman's attractive presence and why one would find specific things about her sexually arousing. My sexual orientation is absolutely straight. I am only attracted to males yet I can look at a woman with the thoughts of a man. Not wanting her, but just being able to think about her in that way. I am almost fully convinced thats because I read so much. So many characters and details and feelings. When I read, I get so involved, I become the characters. They are alive in my head, only during the process of reading the book of course. I began masturbating when I was 11 or 12. My mind is very sexual, I am constantly fantasizing, to the point where I believe I might be worse than a guy. Its not always right to the point of "banging", I can fantasize about a subtle kiss on the hand. A whisper. A specific look in the eyes. Unspoken words, only read through body language. But then I can also think of things such as, being tied up. Foreplay with ice cubes. The orgasm itself, feelings/sounds.Striptease. Against a wall. I pick up a lot of images from books, movies, etc but the majority is all from my head. I am over imaginative. Constantly imagining any new scenarios, you name it, I've thought it. Now here comes the confusing information. I'm mostly traditional. I'm not waiting till I'm married to have sex, but I refuse to lose my virginity in high school. I've yet to have my first real kiss.I've had very few boyfriends and it takes me an exceptional amount of time to become comfortable around them. I'm conservative, shy. A good girl, but my mind is so bad. I go through streaks of sometimes masturbating 3 times a day to only once every 2 weeks. Sometimes I become so turned on by imagining, I can't hardly control myself. As of now, I've been with someone for a 1 and a half. I am very comfortable with him and trust him so much but I'm still not used to his touch. I love it though. The most we've done; he's set me up on the bathroom counter and kissed my neck, stroked me with his fingers around my inner thighs and genitals, sucks on my earlobes, grabbed my breasts, licked around my stomach, I've sat on top of him. But everything has been with clothes on!, except for licking my stomach. We have been best friends for a year and a half, with him always having feelings for me but I didn't return them, until about 2 months ago. So that's why just now we're beginning to go a little further. But I still have my limits. I get so turned on by him by just starring at his lips. Or when he pulls up his shirt, amazing body. The only times I can really express my thoughts sexually are through the phone, or some kind of communication device. Texting. I've sent few pictures of me in my underwear. Just to tease him because he's never seen me outside of my clothes. But in texting. When I'm in one of my moods, I'll just explode on him. Tell him everything I want to do to him or vise versa. But in person my body freezes up. He has such a strong effect with just one touch I can't even move. I'm constantly thinking about sex and romantic touches, interesting moves, extravagant ideas. I'm only a 15 year old girl. What is wrong with me?! You might think "ohhh its normal to be curious, your just going through a stage". But no! I have ALWAYS been this way since I can remember. Its not normal thoughts, its over the top. If anyone could step in my head, they'd probably die of shock. That someone as innocent looking as I could think and want such things. Please help, I'm afraid I might have some sort of condition. A sex addict but without the sex. Sorry its so long, theres a lot of information. Thank you! So sorry about the length, I just really need some help!

What is the profession on the show lie to me called? I'm very interested in that line of work and i want to know the exact name of his job. I know it's some sort of detective, but what kind? And where would i go to school to learn those sorts of things? (In case you don't watch this show, the man reads people's body language and facial expressions to see if they're lying) Also, because i'm only in 9th grade, are there any sorts of science, business, or math classes i could take to help? -:No rude answers/comments please:- Answers are greatly appreciated(: Wow, some people are really ignorant. I'm asking what the profession of the character is, Dr. Lightman, i know that the man who plays him is an actor, obviously, don't insult my intelligence.

Ladies, is this right... generally speaking? If a guy likes a girl, would this be good advice and maybe how he could go about his approach. He has to do something, but, what exactly is a man supposed to do. From my experience, you have to show about 80-90% of how you feel about someone... but you also have to hold back a little to make it a least a little bit exciting and challenging for someone to ever want to be with you. Here goes... 1- Girls do not want to be taken advantage of and be taken for granted... so they try to not be too available and too into you even if they like you. Their first test is to see how needy you are so they can establish your status - if you are all over her... she won't want you, she will feel you are of lower status and desperate. Hence, when you exchange phone numbers, wait for her to call you if you want the girl. You call her the next day- you're toast. Women want a challenge, a strong man, a man that other women want. If you smother her in anyway - you're toast. Basically tell her something like maybe I'll call you later or maybe I'll see you later. You have to show you have some kind of life to establish your status. Survival of the fittest man. 2- More than anything... a sense of humor can win almost anybody over. Know this! Be funny and never be serious. A little bad boy image never hurts, a little hint of danger and excitemnet for her. All the while being someone she can rely on for comfort and support. Tease her, please her, but never I REPEAT NEVER droll over her or you're toast! A confident man wins, she will read your body language. Look her directly in her eyes and say something that will not offend her but tease her in a way where other guys would not have the confidence to say it (you could make fun of her high heels and say she was trying to be taller because she was short; if she was short) just don't say anything that would upset her, but, maybe make her laugh and now think she has to prove she's good enough for you --that's the trick. You have to flip it. You like her, but get her proving herself to you - this in a nutshell is what wins the girl. You have to be cocky but not ignorant... there's a fine line there - don't cross it. Its a game of push and pull... never let the string between you break or sag... always keep a little tension on it. This is the cat an mouse game fella - women loved to be chased. Just don't run her into a wall. Chase her, then let her come find you so she can be chased again. lol, yeah i actually tell girls when I meet them that I don't play the whole phone number game... I tell them I will give them a call in a day or two if they are into me. If they weren't into me, i may actually play the game - but, I never end up playing the when to call rule. Nonsense to me... but, some girls still may read you as desperate. i just let them know up front i know all about the when to call BS. I just call when i have time to make a date. General terms here, everyone is different ... I was just trying to get the gist of interaction. Looks like I'm somewhat aware. I just think 90-10. Some guys just are either 100 or 50 and never know what is a comforting for a woman, she wants a lot from you - just not all the time up in her grill where she can't breathe. True everyone is different, but there are some common things women like and dislike. Just trying to understand relationships better that's all. No one can ever be perfect at them, all I can be is myself. I think the chase never ends, thats the secret. Either one can make the move, usually the guy. But, i like to do it almost purely with body language. I'll use the eyes. Funny thing is as a guy, we usually miss all the woman's signals and they think we are not into them or are blind. We don't look for them. women do this naturally all the time with other women and hint to each other. We miss this completely... I'm guilty. Men are not even close to being able to read women the way they can read us... bug disadvantage for us - that's why we are so up front and blurt everything out instead of send them hints. Different species almost. Women are just so different and both sexes treat exh other like we're the same sex. You really have to look from the other side to get it. Its tough but thats the fun part.

Do you believe in a Religion "2.0" (why or why not?)? (understand that participating in in online discourse via Yahoo! Answers pretty much justifies the claim being made...further more, I had the privilege of attaining more Y!A points from a base of 100, but now I find myself in survival mode like Buddha lol) Premise: "If Moses had the single Voice of the people recorded onto stone, today we have a cyber space that can push our truth's another 2000 years (4000 for the Ten Commandments likewise for every other historically recorded body of work)." Challenge: try not talking in real life, just act/react, don't use words. To communicate person to person read body language, facial expression, or reason history of actions & react. Reserve the need to talk--even internal thought--for online discourse (texting or online networking)...peer review of subjective reasoning is geographically less limited in cyberspace; you can fix insecurities in your own reasoning w/ more peers online than IRL (and your accountable by what's set in stone). --for instance text messages and e-mail are admissible in a court of law-- This way, time isn't wasted on talk. Talk is cheap. If you can spend more time not thinking or having insecurity in your reasons by relying on someone else in person to tell you the answers, you'd get more materialistically done. p.s. this applies to constructing a new idea that you want to be perfect in rough draft before you test drive it in real life...Al Qaeda gets RPG instructions online (to be politically incorrect) ---------------------------- "The Law of Complexity / Consciousness is the tendency in matter to complexify upon itself and at the same time to increase in consciousness." - (delegated by a collection of Wiki users) (Also, we are all scientists in trying to justify our subjective, own reasoning s and observation by checking on what others come to think. If talk is just a way to justify and rectify an insecurity in one's own reasoning, grab more peer support online. Also, grab information online since information online is subjected to more peer review) ---------------------------- ------------- Quizzard: Actually, language was invented precisely BECAUSE it is the most direct way to express thought. Try acting out the paragraphs above. You might get the action ('don't speak') across, but not the rest of it. El Grand Daddy: Naturally, of course it is. But, how many groups of people form in spite of each other? Or when things get lost in translation? The fundamentals of every Holy Script--I believe--is true, but that the 'word of mouth' transmission of ideas gets muddled and peer review of the idea gets more and more (geographically) relative... - Yahoo! Answers -------------- Hell, I never wanna talk about this kinda stuff IRL...but 'this' is precisely the point. -------------- ""Every being is accountable to a world wide web of people. Wholly work is at our fingertips if you can read this...if religious text were sociological guidebooks for early man's first attempts at organizing, then the internet contains a real-time feed of what's really worth watching, investing, worth hearing, et cetera. If your real life actions are popular enough to be tuned into by a wide web of people, likewise, people know how high the bar is set worth pushing. If you can waste less time in endless reasoning in real life and get straight to the action, people can get a boatload done...if you're insecure in your reasoning, trust an organization of people to peer review the roadblock in your thought that prevents material action; in this case, you have a world wide web of feedback in cyberspace as opposed to geographically limited word-of-mouth in real life. One spending less time talking in real life is inherently busy getting work done accountable to One Body. Amen."" Me to Y!A * With the world wide web, human discourse is no longer geographically relative that everyone must assume and realize. ....but y'all did read it :) And your responses were all I needed! Peer review shapes someone to become a better person :) Well, my fault is that I haven't "laymanized" this yet to a point where I can be universally understood, but that's why I have your criticisms to guide me! Thank you! It would only be natural--as a part of Religion 2.0--to leave this up to vote!

Men, is this true? I just want to know if this article I read is true or accurate. Thank you! 18 Body Language Clues That Say He's Interested -- Definitely He'll try to attract your attention. For some men, this might mean a subtle tie adjustment along with a silent prayer that you'll notice the flash of movement. Others turn into Bippo the Clown and become so loud and boisterous, they're practically juggling and doing handstands. Any exaggerated movement or gesture usually means he's trying to stand out from the group. Another giveaway: he'll unconsciously detach from his friends by standing slightly apart, hoping to be seen as an individual. He'll stroke his tie or smooth a lapel. We all know what these preening gestures mean. They're the equivalent of the female lip lick -- "I want to look good for you." He'll smooth or mess up his hair. Which gestures he chooses depends on his hairstyle and what's going to make it look more flattering. Guys do this involuntarily and more often than you think. Glance back next time you trot off to the restroom and I bet his hands will be on their way to touching his hair. His eyebrows remain slightly raised while you're talking. A slightly surprised, quizzical expression means he finds you fascinating. Or completely nuts. Quite frankly, either are preferable to a man who looks at you with a smooth, relaxed brow and eyes. That one simply finds you boring. He'll let you see him checking out your body. Some experts call it "visual voyaging" -- his eyes take a little cruise around your body, stopping momentarily at the prettiest ports. Don't kid yourself: he scanned your body automatically the second he laid eyes on you. The difference here is that he's letting you see him do it. The message: I'm considering you as a sexual partner. He'll spread his legs while sitting opposite, to give you a crotch display. He's letting you have a good look at what's on offer. Hopefully, he still has his jeans or pants on at the time.

Playing with breasts a sexual act? When a woman sits there in front of you and plays with her breasts. As in, puts her hand in her top and fiddles with her breasts, is this a sexual act? Why would she do this and what would be running through her mind? I read on a body language website that '' Touching the breast(s) draws further attention to it. When a woman does this in front of a man it makes the man think of doing this and is thus a highly suggestive and flirtatious act.

Why do some men have cold-attitudes toward to their women after a while? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!? PLEASE HELP ME :( --------------------------------- Lost of interest? My boyfriend wasn't like himself when I first met him. Before, he was so sweet and always responsive to me whenever I talk to him (such as MSN). We even used to talk on the phone as well for hours end, but we stopped. He only calls whenever his Internet would be down. The small things was nice. But he's cheap and self-interested when it comes to investment. Before I used to spoil him, now I will not do so. After a while, he stopped leaving messages on my MSN about how much he misses me or how much he "<3"s me or something sweet in the morning, so when I wake up, I'll feel a smile on my face for the morning. And whenever I talk to him on MSN, it's like I'm talking to an unresponsive user who is constantly distracted and only replies whenever I have a question, but if I ask too many questions at the same time, he'll only answer one and the only time he would send me a message willingly on his end is to say "Good Night <3". He's always saying how much he wants to "talk" to me. Right. I find that extremely UNBELIEVABLE. And whenever I do talk to him, he doesn't find much interest. I become depressed because of what Dale Carnegie said that everyone is only best interested in themselves even lovers, and that human beings are selfish naturally and instinctively and we don't even notice it. So, in summary: - Doesn't buy me gifts or anything, took me out to dinner once, that's it. - Stopped leaving cute messages - Stopped calling me; only to call when his Internet is down (rarely) - MSN conversations are like dried up balls - He doesn't seem to be interested in what I have to say - Seems distracted But, the thing is that, in REAL life, he is extremely affectionate and caring. Is it possibly that men's brains are mono-activity-wise? That they can only do one thing at a time, and they can't very well at all multi-task? And when they talk, they lack body language and they get precisely to the point of what they want to say? What should I do to make him sweeter again? Should I make him miss me by not talking or seeing him for a week? Should I give him the cold-shoulder? He CLEARLY knows that I spoil him and that he understands that he spends all of his money on himself. He's extremely forgetful though. He forget that I had a foot injury and I wasn't able to catch up to him and I would be left behind often. I sometimes feel very bitter. I read from eHarmony.com, in the people's advice section that men don't get these messages from women and they honestly don't understand how relationship works. I don't want to dump him, I want to make this relationship work out! PLEASE HELP ME :( Should I just communicate to him like any other guy do? Just talk to him straight out and feel little emotions about it? Almost like a android! =D ... "Um-mm how old are you guys?" 18 and 18 "do you feel that you are high maintenance?" Not exactly, but I'm a girl and I want to feel a bit special. He doesn't give me anything though. TO CC: "Um-mm how old are you guys?" 18 and 18 "do you feel that you are high maintenance?" Not exactly, but I'm a girl and I want to feel a bit special. He doesn't give me anything though. Yeah, but I always think of myself secondly... It's still parishly selfish to say that I want what's best of me, but he already has the best of himself because of me. http://advice.eharmony.com/?page=view_thread&TID=17067 The "expert" advice I was referring to is to this link. READ "Jacequesne"'s first comment. He's so intelligent in his saying! To DingleBored: Then just answer the question, you don't have to read my long ass information which could be crucial to the answer i'll be looking for and possibly... irrelevant! Anyway, go ahead and try to skim through at least some parts...

need help with a confusing girl. girl's opinions please? This is a long question. If you don’t feel like reading, then don’t. if you do, then thank you very much for your time. there's this girl in a couple of my classes that is really cute and i like her. I never talked to her the first semester because i was shy, but this semester i manned up and finally talked to her. at first i thought things were going well- she seemed comfortable with me, having good conversations, laughing. she started to sit next to me during lectures and classes but she sort of keeps to herself, never really getting close enough to accidently touch me, kind of has a closed gesture. lately our conversations never really go beyond school topics and when i do try to go beyond school she gives brief and/or uninterested responses. whenever we see each other outside of class she gives me a half smile and a head nod- the kind you give to someone you just acknowledge. We had a little study session together the other night to study for a quiz and we ended up just talking about different stuff for about 30 min. she seemed somewhat excited to study with me when I texted her that night and the morning of so I thought that was a good sign. then today when she was going into the building (I was quite a ways away behind her) as she opened the door she looked my way, saw me, and the quickly turned her head and walked away; but when that class started she sat next to me. Also, on her facebook page she has a bunch of pictures of her and this guy hugging and cuddling, but they aren’t hooking up or anything and she doesn’t have a relationship status up on facebook. but whats weird is that she seems like she’s starting to not be into me, but she still sits next to me in classes even though she knows other people to sit next to. My friend says that the fact that she sits next to me and went to the study thing with me means that she likes me, even though she has a bunch of pictures on facebook with that other guy. She gives me some body signals that she likes me like dilated pupils, playing with her hair/moving it to the other side of her face so I can see her face and preening, but I’m starting to think that those body language tips are bullshit. I asked her if she wanted to get lunch with me today but she said she couldn’t because she always eats lunch and dinner with her friends and that if she didn’t then she would eat with me. I’ve complimented her on a piece of jewelry she had, which I actually liked, and she just said thanks like she didn’t care what I said. I don’t get why she sits with me when she doesn’t seem that interested in me. She doesn’t seem like the shy type cause she has tons of friends and goes out just about every night, but idk maybe she is around someone she likes? She even became a fan of a frat that I’m pledging on facebook even though she said she hated that frat-why would she do that unless she likes me, right? She’s really confusing me. I don't understand why she keeps sitting next to me. she doesn't really add to the conversations, sometimes she'll wait for me after class and sometimes doesn't, im so confused. The other day in class I leaned away from her for most of the class and it seemed that she was playing with her hair more and she would lift her leg closest to me and bring it down kind of hard so that it would make noise. When I leaned back towards her she stopped doing those things and talked with me on the way back to the dorm. When we sit together in class she seems fine when our arms lean against each other and doesn’t move when they touch and sometimes our feet/legs get close to each other, but never touch. My gut says that she likes me, but some of these things make it seem like she doesn't... I'm so confused So my question is do you think that she's attracted to me or am I just a classroom buddy? thanks for the answers.

Why does she still hold it against me? Ok first of all let me explain and it'll be really long. PLEASE DO NOT JUDGE ME!!! Only constructive critism that is sensitive and respectful. 4+ years ago I had a heck of a time because I didn't know what was wrong with me, and I didn't reach puberty until age 23. Well a year ago I found out I had OCD(the thoughts were the compulsion) I still have it but it's asleep because of a pill I'm on. When my endocrinologist put me on birth control pills last summer I FINALLY reached puberty and never got mad ever again and always happy. well 4+years ago I met a family that helped me out a lot. They know my worst side. They're like second parents to me. Anyway with these new changes in my life, being mentally and physically healthy, I can drive, cook, and do all sorts of stuff now and work probably. Anyway they live two states away for a year now and I've been telling them about my changes and stuff. I have a passion of being a missionary and want to go to this high class college Christian college. Well she thinks I'm not good enough because I have anger issues(not anymore) and I had issues at a secular college(that's because I was severely ill mentally and bad men picked up on that and preyed on me!) and she just won't let go of the past! She keeps bringing it up and holding it against me! I don't think it's fair because I'm no longer that person I was 4 years ago. I am completely new and different person. My friends who see me in person often have noticed the changes and are encouraging me and helping me prepare for this college with intense mission training. Yes 4 years ago I couldn't handle it but now oh yes! So why is this person holding the past against me? She said she doesn't believe me because she's not around me to read my body language. I don't lie when I tell people my struggles and successes. So should I just put her out of my life for awhile and focus on my friends who know me in person? Even my pastor has noticed changes and is encouraging me. PLEASE BE NICE! NO JUDGEMENTS! By the way every letter I send her she thinks I am angry when I'm not! I may put one word in all caps but that's it. She thinks I have an anger problem but nobody else thinks that. I was upset with a friend of mine the other day and was really calm about it, she didn't know I was mad at her. Do I need anger management classes? no! maybe learn to trust guys classes lol.

Flirting and trying to read her. I need both Women and Men's point of view. Adults only please? Part 2? I know i asked a similar question this week. Just got back from the dinner cruise and im more confused now than ever 1. Everything was going pretty well until this one woman said we were a cute couple. She made it clear we were friends. The lady then ask how good of friends? She said just friends. Lady then goes any interest in dating? 2. How should i read a reserved woman. How do i know she in interested? But her eyes and body language says she wants to be with me We have been hanging out almost 2-3 days per week for the last 4 weeks. Basically hanging out all weekend. We just got back from the dinner cruise. It was me, her, and her daughter. Her daughter is awesome and i know she wants me and her mom to date. She told me she would rather her and her mom hang out with me than her being with her real dad I have known her and her daughter for 6 years and been good friends for over 3years. I talked to a buddy who knows whats going on and has been putting in good words for me. He thinks she was trying to save face and make me not feel awkward. Is this a possiblity? Or am i totally stuck in the friend zone? I was thinking about writing her basically a love letter and pointing out how i would be good for her and how she would be good for me. I know i might lose a friendship but im ready to go all in or go home. Women what would you think about getting a love letter from someone you know very well? On the deal with the daughters dad. He never shows up for his visits. When he does its what he wants to do not what she wants. She doesnt get a long with her step brothers and sisters. When im with her mom and her i make sure they are both having a good time and they are safe

How do dogs interpret what we want? My son's pit bull knows when his school bus will arrive & trots down to the road (we live in a rural area) to meet him about 5 minutes before the bus arrives... even when school lets out early. This dog positioned himself between my boy & a man involved with the little league last year & showed his teeth & raised his hackles... months later the man was arrested for child abuse & phonography. For some reason the dog can interpret what we want & do it without verbal command... do they read human body language that well? I read that wolves raised from pups, although they have the same DNA as a dog, never learn to interpret body language like dogs. How long ago did the wolf develop this simbiotic relationship with humans? Biologists put the relationship at > 100,000 years, while anthropologists date it at 15,000 to 18,000 yrs ago. I find it strange that we have found no gene that definately identifies a canine as either wolf or dog. However, the dog can interpret human body language far better than any other animal, even our closest living relative the bonobo.

Are women better at reading body language then men, if so why>? I am tempted to ask this question, b/c my gf can tell if i am lying, being aggresive, etc. But I have found other women, who are decent in picking up body language. On the other hand, i look at women and intrepret their body language as "she wants me." Do you think women are better at reading body language? If so why, enivronment, general or what?

Apparently girls are 10 times better than men at reading body language...? Do you agree and why?

did you know that girls are 10 times better at reading body language than men? lol i'm not saying that girls are better than guys although they kind of are lol i'm just saying did you know that about body language.

Is it true that women can read body language 10X better then men? I have read in the past that women are more tuned to body language then men, up to ten times more. Is that true...and if so why is that? Can a man improve it and sense more compartible mates over others.

How to read a womem/ or men body language to know they are lying? your opinion plz..

is it true that women are more intuitive and can read body language better than men?

are you good at reading body language? could somebody who is good at reading body language could you tell me about what you see when you look and analyze this man (yes, its a man) called bill kaulitz hes a very interesting character could you please research him and tell me about his body language :] i really need help he always does this raised eyebrow, and pursed lips kind of look i really can't explain but if you are bored please analyze him and tell me more PLEASE >.< i am desperate

are men THAT BAD wen it comes to reading subtle signs;eg reading other persons body language 2 c if they? like them, if so why?

How do women read body language so well? Is it true that they usually can figure a guy out in minutes? ? What do women notice that men do not?

Book that can teach me how to read body language? For example when i think someone i dont know might be mad at me or could even be violent if i could know what people are about to do it can help in alot of ways... is there a book that can teach you if the man next to you will hit you or is not etc under various circumstances?

based on men and their body language, could you tell he liked me?? EASY 10 POINTS =]]? so like a year ago me and these two guys were in this guy's living room talking when one of them went to the bathroom we're in high school and i had to take my chemistry regents the next day so i was cramming sitting on one side of the couch with this huge textbook lol right? the guy spreads out i don't know if his body was facing me or not but his legs were spread apart and i think he was looking at me and then he started tickling me then i find out like two weeks ago that he liked me did this in any way show in his body language? also he was leaning back and his arms were crossed behind his head which i read shows arrogance, confidence, superiority ...

can you read body language? If a woman meets a man and she is carrying something, say a folder and he touches it while he is talking to her, what does this non verbal clue mean? Also, when a woman touches a man on his arm, what message is that sending to him? Have looked up heaps of websites on this body language, but am getting millions of different answers.

if a person eyes are dialated does that mean they like you,as far as body language goes? I like this man and I think he likes me . So I've been reading about body language. The way he looks at me when I speak,eye contact, the way his body is facing me when I'm around him.What is a sure fire way to know with out just asking him? Is there one?

Boys...boys and more boy problemz lol? hey everyone im new here.my names lilly :P well i have a question....its about reading a mans body language.I study in the same class as this guy but im new. he acts all shy towards me and all my new friends know him.i sometimes i get "feeling" hes looking at me but he turns the other way or when hes on his own hes quiet and when we i catch him looking he turns away or looks at the floor. but when hes with his friends hes a real loud mouth. when were in class together he talks to the other girls sitting near me but he wont talk to me i dont understand if hes just shy i really want to talk to him but im shy myself and dont know how to make contact...plus im scared his friends are going to say something aswell.....alot of my friends are judging him and saying he wants to talk but how can we when were in class and hes with his friends......are you getting the feel he likes me or am i just totally reading his body language wrong. thankyou for answering my question

Body Language of A Man? i like reading all the fun stuff there is about body language and i was noticing that someone i've been involved with physically do some interesting things. we he and i are sitting down and talking on a bench he'll occassionaly lift the lower part of his time up as if to straighten it but he ALWAYS does it like 5 minutes after i do it. i was just curious if that meant anything like subconsciously. also sometimes he would while talking to me rub his nose occasionaly but that was mostly when we were outside. i dont know if it means anything at all just curious if it does. Thanks! :) i like have this tie fetish thingy lol. so i love touching his tie. thats why i aked the question. ill touch it or gently pull it from the base and then later he'll smooth it out or lift it up and smooth it out. hope it makes it clearer.

Ladies how true is this? Latest research says women are better at reading body language than men, as one woman put it, 'the average bloke either doesn't realise that we fancy him until we are giving birth to his children in the labour ward; or he presumes all women fancy him all the time.'

How to read a womans body language to know they are lying? seeking advice on the different types of body language a woman will demonstrate when lying to their man.

Why, if men are supposedly so visually oriented, are they so very bad at ? Reading body language and non verbal cues? by the way, this question is asked purely out of curiousity...not to poke fun at guys.

I like this guy but i'm not sure i am his type, how do i find out if he is interested n me or sex? I have had a crush on this guy for a long time. While a was waiting on him i had a fling with a friend of his. Now that it is over i want him. He seems interested and curious n me but i am ready to have a relationship i am tired of having "friends". I need to know how to read his body language. men are confusing.

what is the name of the body part where men grow mustache ? What women call it since they don't grow mustache? I read somewhere that there is no name for this body part between nose and the upper lip in any language, ist it true?

why dont women tell whats on her mind? why dont women tell whats on her mind, why do men have to read body language and stuff..it would be much easier if women tell what she want? like if she wants sex..just say??? so guy knows what to do..why it has to be so complex...and no wonder so many questions come up in yahoo answers??what u think ?

Men - I've given up!!!? Why is it, every time I find a guy who I think is everything I've ever wanted, he ends up having some sort of psychological problem - whether it be neediness (to the extreme), wussiness (as in doesn't have any testosterone), cluelessness (can't read body language) or nyphomania (with other women)...... (Is there any guy out there reading this who doesn't have any of the above???) Please send resume.

Do Find This TRUE Of Men And Women? I've been reading about body language.Do you find that people do these things when they see/talk to someone they find attractive? Men Eyes dilate Hands In front pockets (showing they are relaxed around you) Adjust clothing Pull in stomach/puff up chest Eyebrows raised Slight flair in nostrils Women Licks lips Strokes arms/legs Flips hair Dilated eyes Laugh and smile a lot Thrust Breast Sorry about the typo In the question. Sorry about the "Thrust Breast" I guess I should have worded that different.

Looking for books about body language, human senses, and improving voice tone? I am looking for books about body language, human senses, and improving voice tone. I have read through a few books amongst these types over the years and just realized my library no longer has none that I have not yet read. Just to give you an idea of what I am looking for I will give you a bit of info. I like to be in control of conversations even if I am not the one leading. I try to maintain a solid tone, proper acknowledgment of both my stance and theirs, and I like to be able to use the human senses to my advantage, although this is not as often put to use with men. Thanks.

How can I discern whether an East Indian woman is flirting or not? I am a man who finds himself in a dilemma. I have met an intelligent, witty, nice and beautiful East Indian woman. I am a rather attractive Hispanic professional myself, who is happily married. I can usually read the body language of western women, and respond appropriately. However I am at a loss when it comes to Indian women. This woman has data I need, and I cannot afford to offend her with a misunderstanding. I know Indians have a much different view of personal space than westerners. So I am not sure if she is just being friendly, or has more on her mind. Replies from Indian women or cross-cultural behavior experts are prefered.

Body Language is scary, do you think she notices as much as i do? I bought a book on body langage and another book on how men and women act and differ (by a couple called allan and barbera pease, worth buying), i thought it was brilliant, i read the books quite fast, and i'm noticing ALOT of little things, easier in myself because i can stare at myself without people thinking i'm weird. But i am noticing it on other people, and i look for it more. Now i lent those two books to a friend of mine (a girl, but were not going out, but very close) and shes reading them front to back thoroughly, and she keeps showing me little things shes picked up from the book...and it got me thinking "Crap, is she noticing things about me i dont want her to?" Because i'm not the person i put out i am, sure i'll be all confident and happygolucky when i'm around my mates, but generally i'm cautious, closed up and quiet and more sensitive then i'll act normally. I dont like people knowing things about me i dont want them to, and i kinda might have a insie little crush on the person...starting to worry me if I'm honest

What can women do/say to let a guy know she likes him w/o coming off too strong? Some, but not a lot of guys I have seen that are able to read body language that good or read between the lines. So, my question to you is what can a woman say to a guy she is interested in, without being to direct/agressive? Without it also being seen as a sign of desperation by some men.

Girls, Women, I've just read where females can tell if the man they see is...? confident and attractive to them by just seeing or observing the mans' body language..is this true and can you give some examples of the body language you think is attractive/confidence, even very small clues? anything will be helpful...maybe hand placement, facial expressions, standing posture, walk, etc

where do you draw the line when do you see past the man and listen to the words? In regards to Obama - and I am not talking to or about those who actually are socialists or have those socialistic mindsets like Obama does, I am asking those who really dont agree with his policies Why does the way a person says there words hold more weight than what they are actually saying or not saying? Like in China where they had the little girl lip sync the song cause she was a prettier face. Obama has many brilliant qualities, I watched him debate and could see the sales man in him, how he reads body language and can pick one thing out of what someone says and play off it (it takes one to know one) some people are naturals at this and when paired with charisma and articulation then yes you have a dynamic speaker and then add looks to boot you have a Great Politician or Business man or what ever they choose to do BUT do we let all that over ride the content of a persons character? Now those who actually have the same value system as he does cool, I get it He is your man and hey a good man to have in your corner. I am talking about those who don’t, where do you draw the line when do you see past the man and listen to the words? Do your values and morals go out the windows for a pretty face and charismatic speaker in the hopes that in the end he will come around?

Not sure how to take this...his body language that is...HELP!? Ok all I have been going to the same dentist for the last few years. Anyhow my dentist decided to sell his business and now there is a new dentist there. I haven't met him yet because I've only been in for a cleaning by the hygienist. Anyhow, while she was cleaning my daughters teeth I was sitting in the corner chair reading. When I noticed a man (the new dentist) go into a room right across the hall. Anyhow I looked up and as he was coming out he smiled and raised both eyebrows to me. What does this mean...I find him highly attractive and looking for a reason to go back in to meet him...*L* Or was he simply bein friendly and im making more out of this. HA HA...I need others input. THANKS Nick he didnt touch me for goodness sakes although I wish he would have...*L* Or at least given me a personal phone number.

Obama a captivating speaker? agree - disagree? Absolutely I agree. Listening to him speak (most of the time- with teleprompter) when he really is passionate about something yeah the charisma and words are passionate articulate and riveting – He is captivating But then so is Farrakhan and Hitler – Why does the way a person says there words hold more weight than what they are actually saying or not saying? Like in China where they had the little girl lip sync the song cause she was a prettier face. Obama has many brilliant qualities, I watched him debate and could see the sales man in him, how he reads body language and can pick one thing out of what someone says and play off it (it takes one to know one) some people are naturals at this and when paired with charisma and articulation then yes you have a dynamic speaker and then add looks to boot you have a Great Politician or Business man or what ever they choose to do BUT do we let all that over ride the content of a persons character? Now those who actually have the same value system as he does cool, I get it He is your man and hey a good man to have in your corner. But I am talking about those who don’t, where do you draw the line when do you see past the man and listen to the words? Do your values and morals go out the windows for a pretty face and charismatic speaker in the hopes that in the end he will come around?

What Does This Body Language Say? While talking to several men lately, at different times, I've had them stretch back and rub their hair at the back of the head. I've read that if a woman plays with their hair, they are attracted to you. Is this true of men also?

If women don't want to meet guys in bars, then how come.....? .... every reputable dating expert and sociologist who studys male/female interaction says that the bar scene is THE place where men and women meet. I have read plenty of research that says women in bars are constantly giving out body language signals to the men they want to meet but most men don't know how to read female body language. Aren't women on here just saying they don't want to meet men in bars be cause it is the politically correct thing to say?

Do you think his body language is trying to tell me something? I have a guy best friend that I have known since I was 14 yrs old. I am know 28. Back then I had the hots for him. He never saw me with other intentions. He got married and had 2 girls at the time I had a boyfriend a relationship of 5yrs. Around the time he divorced his wife I broke up with my boyfriend. He was depressed and I was too we were both going through a hard time. Well were a support for each other. To make the long story short, our relatinship as friends through the rough times just made it stronger. After couple of yrs he met this girl I was dating other guys.... then the girl he was seeing at the time got pregnant which he never married her or lived with her until know. At the time we would go out to eat and just have fun. For one reason or another we kind of got distant for about 2 yrs we would call each other here and there but not like before. Until about 1 yr ago. He is know living with the girl that had his last baby boy but he is not happy with her they really dont have a good relationship I would say that he is trying his best because of his son. I know that because he is a very good father. His first marriage ended because one day he came from work and found his wife in bed with another guy. So after that his confidence was destroyed so he was just scared to start another relationship. But then this girl he is with got pregnant they did not move in together until about 5 months ago. Anyway, I have my boyfriend and the day he met him my guy best friend was in shock. and I felt like he was jealous. He did not mention it to me. But I could see his face and reactions...... so now everytime that he refers to my boyfriend always has a bad thing to say or calls him something bad. I just got hired at the company he works for as an accountant and we have been seeing each other more often. But I have been noticing that he gets real close to me and always having details with me. Everytime I see him its like he has to give me something or has something to give me.(chocolate, etc) I always have cooked for him and this weekend his girlfriend is going out of town and he is coming over for dinner. He stands real close to me then sometimes I will just turn around and is like my face is right in front of him I feel like one of these days he will just kiss me. After yrs of knowing each other I did mention to him that I had the hots for him when I was young at the time when I told him I was like 22yrs old. But we both just took kit like a joke or nothing serious. I do care for him a lot because I have known him for about 13yrs. but just the way he is acting with me. lately I dont know how to take it. I did see him like a brother all these yrs after I told him. We would talk about everything I mean we are best friends I feel that since he met my boyfriend he changed his attitude.... he is just trying to get closer and calling me. The other day I left work with out saying good byeand 5 min later I received his call and he was asking me why I had left without saying good bye. I am confused..... I do love my boyfriend but he is very irresponsible and my best friend is not he is like the perfect guy, the perfect dad, husband he is always going out of his way to help others and like I mentioned he even moved in with his girlfriend because he is trying to do the right thing even though he does not love her he cares for her but not in love. I know this is hard for him. His actions are just confusing ..... To be honest I would love to have a man like him. But I love my boyfriend. I dont see myself with someone else.... What should I do? What do you think? Since you are out of the scene what do you see and think is going on? I really need your help. I just dont want to mess things up or take it the wrong way. Thanks in advance for reading and answering I do appreciate it.

Men adjusting their junk in public. Appealing or appallin?.? I am reading a book on body language and found a section on male sexual signals, most of which involve the crotch. One part of this chapter states that something men do to show their prowess to an interested female is adjust their genitals? Now I have always been told this is a no no when done in full view. I personally find the act vile. But is this true ladies? Do you find a guy playing pocket pool apealing? The book is: the Definitive Book of Body Language. To the ignorant person that asked if I was a switch hitter with a crotch fetish. I personally find no attraction in a crotch of males and little attraction to female crotches, except for the sexual act. I am a legs and butt guy if anything, I thought I made it clear I personally do not like this kinda behavior, but was curious if I had been misled in my bringing up. Remember men once went around wear grotesque cod pieces to display their prowess. Your statement showed a lot of ignorance.

The longer this Vick trial has gone on the more I see people backing him up? Why do you think he doesn't talk? Have you seen Vick say a peep? If you were completely innocent and were astonished by the charges, wouldn't you say something? Even if it were just "just wait until you see I'm innocent." He has nothing to say, not because lawyers tell him not to talk, but because he is guilty. He hopes for the smallest chance that he will get by the accusations, but know he won't. Can't you people read body language? Just look at his guilt all over his face. Once you are indicted you are basically super fucked. Mark my words that when a real trial comes and the evidence has to be put on the table, they will have him colder than they do now. Probably some pics from a camera phone or something. The inside man from the FBI said he saw him and you think the FBI can just bullshit their way through it all. Do you know what is on the line for all the people accusing him falsely? Just want everyone to know there is no need to post anymore questions like these. Is Vick innocent? What do you tnink about Vick?

how do i read a girl? i want to know if she likes me i know she does but i want to be sure how can i read her body language, or how can i show her i am the man she needs and wants any advice she knwos how i feel and we are good friends i help her with her problems and stuff and i waited long time so now i have to make a move i just want to know when the time is right and if i get rejected what do i say

Men: over the age 30? How come you do this to certian women? I get the same reaction from all guys who are over the age of thirty and preferabably black men. It is when I greet a guy and (I do know them), the guy always shakes my hand . ok that sounds normal. It is , BUT, they like to use both of their hands covering my hand which is fine, but i will watch them and they arent doing that with no other person ( women) how is that guys do it to me only? Many of my friends told me it is because "they think im special " or I seem"sensitive"( im not) . I THINK that the guys are telling me through body language they are interested in me! Why cant they just ask 4 my number and call me and invite me out? Is this also a reason im still single ? i can read signals but, I dont do anything about them? ps.. guys will also touch my shoulders while using both hands, and even given me a nickname! The guy is always over the age 30 !and when they shake my hand, they dont want to let it go. I have to! I just want to know how come they dont ask me out! yeh , I love it that they treat me this way! who wouldnt? xoxo

Just being nice, or a true sign of interest? IF you want the full story/history read my other posts, I think they R under Cancer Men or something. Anyway, long story short.There is a guy in a band that I go & see every 3 mo or so. I think there is some definate signs of attraction or interest. Straight on full eye contact 4 more than the "normal" time, Lots of smiling & looks. I also know how 2 read some body language, & those signs seem 2 indicate interest. Anyway,he has come over a sat down once & chated with me, until this last time. He sat with me on his last break for a little while. We chatted, and then he had 2 go back up & play. Now this is the odd thing. At the end of the night, he came over 2 me, & when I stood up he had his arms out coming towards me 4 a hug. At the same time he replied, yeah I'm a little sweaty, I told him it was fine, I was too. He them told me 2 be careful & drive safe & that he would see me again, & I think he said real soon. So do you think this was being nice, or maybe a signal of more? Some of you may ask what kind of hug it was, I truely can't remember, I really didn't remember much of it as I was in total shock, and couldn't comprehend what as happening. I do know that he had his arms around me about mid back. And I think it lasted maybe4-5 seconds.

Black women...white women/any women Does the way our hair look depicts what men are attracted to us... really? I know the way our apperance as far as what we wear and our body language depicts what people may think of us, but is it the same with our hair? I was reading an article in a magazine where they took one women and told her to go into a club and sit but one time she had 2 natural hairstyles... one was a mini afro the next was like kinky twist.... the guys who were attracted to her were black men with the pants sagging... and were speaking to her because they wanted to take her home from the club and have sex with for the night. the next two nights she wore her hair permed... her hair was long and flat ironed (yes, she had on different clother than before but nothing to different from the outfittswhen she had the natural hairstyles) The guys who approached with the long straightend hair were more of the "business" type, very articulate, could hole an interesting education conversation... wore nice suits.. so Im asking you all Does the way our hair look depicts what men are attracted to?

Initiating in the bedroom? Hi All! I am fortunate to have a very open relationship with my boyfriend. We have a rule that we should talk about sex, but not in the bedroom. The other night we started getting real honest with each other and discussed our sex life, which has been lagging lately. My man works 12 hours a day. He told me that when he gets home he is too tired to have sex. He also says that he likes it in the morning better. He also said that he'd like me to give in order to get. He feels if a woman takes care of her man, and opens that door that she will be rewarded. Problem is, I have trouble initiating. In fact, we both have trouble initiating. I often crave to be desired, but I don't feel that way at all...and I know he feels the same way. So I took his suggestions and have tried to work with them. The following evening I tried, but his body language read that he didn't want to. Last night he was too full. This morning he stopped my hand from roaming south. Any suggestions?

Is this young woman marrying a real Shaman? Shamanism, how do you recognize a fake ? My friends daughter is going to marry a man who claims to be a Shaman. I did some research on the subject and I do not find it to be a bad thing, if it is real. Most of the shamans I read about are basically like medecine men. Healers and helpers. Kind and tolerant. Mild mannered, not offensive to others. Is this a wrong conception on my part? Sure would like to know. This man, I guess, is very rude to others. His persona is that of one that does not allow anyone to know what he is thinking. And they said he stands with his arms folded over chest alot. In body language this would have a significant meaning but I dont remember what it is. This wedding is going to take place soon. I read some of the info on here and it kinda scares me, when they brought up the use of drugs to do this "shaman" thing. Hallucinatory drugs. I took LSD when young and this just doesnt sound good. I would sure love to hear from anyone who knows ANY thing about this subj

I need to keep calm?? This man is really annoying me, and has now chosed to ignore me because i threw my keyboard at him at work an he had to ware an eye patch for days... He and i both share wat i might call friends, and one of them describes me as me to him as his imogonary friend, and therefore eyepatch dude can't see me, because i'm imagonary. So he says "Can i kick your imagonary friend, my friend says, you can try, so patch kicks me in his feeble little girly way and asks if he hit me of not, then he did it so hard one day my knee started to bleed. he thinks he's being clever, but hes a fool, how do i stop myself from getting angry and knocking his head off. i'd also like to be able to read his body language so i know whats going on in that weird hed of his. so any tips would be helpfull, thanks...

What is your opinion on these thoughts? Some thoughts Our whole language is a deception; not foremost in the expressions and words that are established, but by the vast number of concepts missing. The main problem is that for a new word or concept to be established, it must first be grasped by a significant number of people; that is, it must be accepted by "the world". This means, simply, that concepts only understood by a few, will never manifest themselves beyond the realm of introspection. Anyone reflective, truly reflective, that is, will soon become frustrated by the limitation of language, especially when he tries to communicate his thoughts. The language as it is comes close to force even the careful mind into established tracks where the conclusion is socially given. -How many thinkers haven't ended up defending, instead of attacking social prejudices? Think of the concept "selfish". -As if preoccupation with the self is evil in some sense. -Or the concept of being "social", as if to adapt to ones surroundings is moral in some sense. I would flip it around and say that the true man of ethics is the one who is primarily occupied with the self (Socrates: "Know your self."), while the true psychopath is the one who only finds his sense of being alive in interaction with others. -Thereby his never-ending need to manipulate and control. Intuition (In the following I am using the word logic in the classical sense, which does not describe inaccuracy. So I am not including fuzzy logic.) I recognise two different forms of intuition: 1. The first is what I will refer to as the sense of approximation. The world is way to complicated to be understood accurately, so, through complicated neural networks, the brain "estimates" the answer. Most thought processes are inaccurate as in most situations we do not need accurate answers. But in philosophy, where we are searching for absolute answers, this vague sense can not provide us with the final conclusions, which is why we need a focus on logic. 2. The second kind of intuition is related to the phenomenology within. The inner sense of concepts/abstractions, that we might miss words to express. In contrast to the first form of intuition, which is a vague sense of something, this is no blurred image. It is clear as the day and after its discovery, it will never be forgotten, but be stored in your memory for eternity. These provide us with the brick stones logic needs for its construction. To try to construct a mind work on vague concepts is like building a house on sand. Intuition of the 1. kind, may very well resemble the loose connection between symbols in our subconsciousness, but I have yet to see any trace logic in that realm. In the same way that our consciousness main task is to clarify the vagueness of our subconsciousness, philosophy's goal must be to go from the vagueness of normal thinking, to an absolute level of clarity where logic can be applied. Subconsciousness The main motivator for reaching clarity is the search for the unification of the mind and soul. -For although people see them as one, they are not. The mind is infected by so many emotional chains and thought tracks, that constantly threatens to eclipses the soul entirely and deprive us from our true sense of free will. It is in the shadow land our subconsciousness may rule imperturbably, by inciting motivation for constructing a cover of rationalisation for our most primitive impulses, allowing it even to dictate the very foundation of our life-philosophy. Consciousness and will Will is not an energy, it is an entity in itself. Want, however, as an urge, is indeed an energy and comes from the depth of our subconsciousness. If will, like want, had been an energy; or, if will had been a direct consequence of the energy found in out urges, then the concept of free will is meaningless. If free will is a meaningful concept, it must represent something other than what comes from our subconsciousness, but our impulses for that realm, is the ground which it threads upon. Our will needs to be inhabited in a body to act, and our subconsciousness ,with its reflection of the processes in the brain, provides this landscape for our will to navigate in. But, and this is very important, as the different options are layed out, it is the will, and the will only that makes the choice. To point out that free will cannot be scientifically proved, is silly, as science can't even prove that we have a consciousness, but we seem to believe it still. The important thing is that science cannot prove the opposite, which does create a possibility for free will (or God's intervention) in Heisenbergs laws about uncertainty, but whether this possibility is for real, can only be confirmed through introspection. To give you a brief outline my ethical theory: The will to understand, the will to clarity, is our only weapon against corruption of the mind. Nothing in the external world is of unity, everything is fragmented, relative, and perishable, and yet what we search is nothing but something absolute to rely on. -For we know of one thing that is absolute and indivisible: Our very self. The "I" that is looking through our eyes. Every genuine search for meaning is looking for something to reflect this inner reality of unity, to allow us to experience it as much and as intensely as possible. But in the external world it can simply not be found as it only offers design, and beauty is nothing but transient. As we interact with the objects (or subjects), it is only within ourselves, through introspection, we can get this inner sense of absoluteness. -Not in the objects themselves, but in our conception of them. Even in love, this is the case. For if it hasn't been so, then love would have perished the moment the other person died. -But I assume you would agree with me that true love would continue after the other person is gone, in our conception of him/her. It is the will towards this clarity that varies in individuals. The drive towards unity does not come from our subconsciousness, for that is a realm of fragmented or loosely connected symbols where no absoluteness can be found. To repeat myself: Only our "self" constitutes something indivisible. This drive is not an energy, as that would imply a source of motivation, which again would bring us back to our subconsciousness. This drive must be the choice itself. Our very will towards clarity. The choice made in the singular moment that separates the eternal souls from the perishable. The good from the evil. Life after death Every truth seeker has an inner sense that he/she will, one way or another, continue to exist forever. This is directly correlated to the inner sense of the absoluteness of the self. If the "I" is experienced to be fluctuating and relative, then it is not separated from the mind (brain) as such, and becomes dependant on the person's health. "I am not the man I used to be.", would never have been spoken by a truth seeker, for no matter what happens to his physical condition, he will never see his "I" as changing. Everything we observe to die, goes through a process of decay first. -Even if it is a fast occurrence, such as if a bullet penetrates your head. It never goes from one to zero in an instant, but always through a falling curve. The indivisibility of the "I" defies this pattern, which gives a strong impression of that it is, in its essence, independent by external factors. -Including death. There is of course a lot more to say about this. Identity Until a child is about 18 months, it is in a phase where it cannot distinguish between itself and the mother, and automatically expects all its needs to be served. In this phase it cannot separate fantasy from reality. Logical sense, which requires a distinct conception of the self, is not yet developed. People who do not pass this stage of development are psychotic. The next phase is between 18-30 months. The child discovers the distinction between itself and others, and knows that it has to handle other people one way or another to get things the way it wants. A logical understanding of language and the art of manipulation are skills that are developed in this phase. The next phase is what I refer to as the adaption phase. The world is way too complicated for a child to understand, so it is helped by adapting to its parents worldview. That is, it accepts "truths" it don't really understand, but that will help him/her orientate in this life. This is the essence of common sense, and here lies the reason why people so easily accept social norms they can't logically explain if you ask them too. This is what is commonly referred to as the child's identity. Usually people don't separate between the self and their socially defined identity, but the two are not one and the same. The experience of the self is the experience of free will, while the socially defined identity represents boundaries for one's freedom. The conflict between the conception of the self and the pressure from the surroundings to adapt to their worldview, is due to the inner experience of free will in the child. Instead of fully implementing "truths" he/she can't understand, he/she compensates by reading its surroundings psychologically to understand what expectations to meet. People are kept on an arm length distance, while avoiding conflict by pretending to fit in.

How do I know if this is true love, or if I should just move on? Did he mean it when he said he loved me? It's been four years and I'm still pining over 'the one who got away'. We used to be amazing friends, and used to frequently say "i love you" on the phone and I always felt that special something when he looked at me. I had some very deep rooted self esteem issues at this time and refused to believe I could have a chance with this man, even though he had made a few references that he'd thought about me sexually. Now it's been forever since I've seen him and he's with this woman, they've been together over a year now and I'm assuming are quite serious. I ran into the both of them a few months ago and still felt something towards him but couldn't read his body language, he stayed very quiet. I don't know if I should believe my crazy mind and talk to him (I never told him how I truly felt about him) or just leave it be? I have been searching and searching and just can't find someone like him. Could it even be possible he was in love with me too? It's been four years and I'm still pining over 'the one who got away'. We used to be amazing friends, and used to frequently say "i love you" on the phone and I always felt that special something when he looked at me. I had some very deep rooted self esteem issues at this time and refused to believe I could have a chance with this man, even though he had made a few references that he'd thought about me sexually. Now it's been forever since I've seen him and he's with this woman, they've been together over a year now and I'm assuming are quite serious. I ran into the both of them a few months ago and still felt something towards him but couldn't read his body language, he stayed very quiet. I don't know if I should believe my crazy mind and talk to him (I never told him how I truly felt about him) or just leave it be? I have been searching and searching and just can't find someone like him. Could it even be possible he was in love with me too? He told me he'd never forget me :( I wanted to also say thank you for the comments and clarify that I am not intending to try to break up anything with him and this new girl of his. I am just thinking maybe I'd have more piece of mind and be able to move on if I told him the truth. (also, the sexual passes were when he was with other women and I denied every time, I don't do the whole cheating thing)

Does this mean anything, or am I over-analyzing the situation? Well, I'm a guy in high school, and I'm really starting to like one of my female friends. I'm not sure if she feels the same way or not. We have really great conversations, and I flirt with her a lot and stuff, but I just can't tell (her body language and stuff are impossible to read). So anyway, I'm a pretty cocky person (but in a funny way, I don't make people dislike me), and whenever I say something positive, like "I am sooo smart," she'll turn it around and say "no, you're not very smart at all." She'll kind of have a half-smile on her face. Today, she came and sat by me on the bus (she usually comes to sit by me, if that means anything) and while talking, I said "I am the most organized man on earth" and she said "no, you're like the most disorganized man on earth!" I know she's just joking, but does this mean anything, or am I over-analyzing??

Can someone help me with my Spanish? Hi there, i have met a lovely Spanish guy, problem is his English is very limited and so is my Spanish! This makes it hard to communicate at times, particularly as i am back here in England and he is in Spain-even more so over the phone as i cannot read his body language etc! I will write him a letter and would like to tell him that he means a lot to me, and that he is in my thoughts. There is no other man that interests me..... (sorry if this sounds soppy!) any ideas would be gratefully received! Why is it when you find yourself the perfect partner there seems to be a technical hitch?!

Any one want to edit my work, its already been done but a second time... give opinions on how to make it beter Any one want to edit my work, its already been done but a second time... give opinions on how to make it beter Advertising Report 1. Introduction My report is based on advertising and how much it influences our behaviour and actions. Advertising is a type of communication aimed to sell a product, service and/or beliefs, by influencing the desired product to a specific target audience. Advertising is an competetive industry and is one of the top bussinesses around the world, spending over $385 billion dollars each year. Advertising is surrounding our everyday lives, for example, television, radio, movies, magazines, newspapers, video games, Internet etc. Even the smallest things that wouldn't cross our minds are still adverts, for example behind shopping reciepts, cinema coupons, SMS (short message service), telephone hold messages, side of buses and seats of grocery carts. It gives out messages that try to influence certain types of audiences with catchy headlines and attention grabbing phrases and very attractive men and women. 2.1 Symbolic codes Symbolic codes reflect the type of non-verbal communications we use in everyday life. Also are a way of getting extra attention on adverts. When i surveyed 30 people, 43% of the people said, product is the main thing they look for in an advert, while brand and person both got 16% and others got 23%. 2.1.1 Colours Colours bring out the effect of either older images or even the latest. Some advertising agencies decide to choose black and white colours because its a sign of an old classic touch. Also other agencies like to do bright colours to get more attention, because many people have difficulties in life and would like to see bright colours simply because it brings out very happy and cheerful thoughts that everyone would like to have in their lives. By looking at the Emporio Armani watch advert, you could tell that it is trying to manipulate the audience by allowing them to think the watch will stay forever and always look classic. 2.1.2 Costumes The style of clothing can tell you more about the historical date or type of character. 2.1.3 Setting The environment can suggest the type of product it will be representing or the type of person representing the product. 2.1.4 Body language In adverts, people try to use the right body language (head tilt, hip shift, bent knee, hand gesture, etc.) to show if someone is sad, happy, in love, angry, etc. and try to represent what the product is about. By looking at the Emporio Armani watch advert, you could see the ladys face is to the side and looking straight forward, trying to say its a straight forward watch, you will have no problems with it. 2.2 Written codes Any written information on the advert is classified into written codes. 2.2.1 Headings Headings tries to introduce you to the product, whether its the brand name or what the product is used for. For example in the Lux soap advert, the heading tells you how Hollywood stars use it and how they have nice clean skin all the time. 2.2.2 Catchphrases People don't have time to read the whole advert, so catch phrases are very catchy, even for a few seconds. Catchphrases are a way of tricking people on how good the product is, in a glimpse. When people tend to look at the advert they don't realise how bad the product is but always look on the good side of the product. 2.2.3 Product information Product information gives more information about the product. In the earlier days (1950's) people were not as busy as nowadays, they had time to read full length pages but now we are so busy that we tend to flick through the adverts, choosing the catchy and most appealing ones to read quickly. On the Aydes advert you could see how much writing there is and its telling more about the product and what the benefits are. 2.3 Technical Codes Technical codes rely on the technology of image to create meaning. 2.3.1 Shot type and angle Shot type and angle can be used to express point of view or the relationships between people and their environment. Camera angles can also be used to create an emotional meaning. 2.3.2 Lightning Lighting, such as brightness, dim light, or shadow can affect our response to the person in the advert or even the product. 3. A.I.D.A 3.1 Attention Adverts must captures the readers attention if they wish to get a good amount of people to buy the product. Producers must make the advertisement stand out, attention grabbing and unique. On my recent survey, 63% of the people said television was the most looked at advertisement. I believe people don't realise how much of things are actually advertised. 3.2 Interest When adverts have got the audiences attention, they must keep interest by the readers, by using readers beliefs, values, attitudes and desires to keep them reading. 3.3 Desire To have a successful advert you will need the readers to have a desire, whether its losing weight or becoming more attractive. The main target is to make the audience feel more attractive and sexy with the product, usually trying to show a better life with the product. 3.4 Action Action is trying to get the advert to send some kind of invitation to get the readers by saying phrases like 'hurry last days' or 'stocks won't last', which makes the consumer believe they don't have much time. 4. Stereotypes Stereotypes are away of grouping people together by the way they look and/or behave. It relies on symbols in order to group these people together. It is also used as a shortcut in communication so that the reader understands quickly about the characters, the advertisers want to portray. 5. Language 5.1 Connotative Connotative means symbols that have meaning, for example, red is a symbol for love, evil, death, blood. 5.2 Emotitive When words or visual images add either a positive or negative meaning to something we see, hear or believe. 5.3 Colloquial Colloquial is very informal, friendly, down to earth language, it includes abbreviations and contractions, use of idioms, most catch phrases and slogans. 5.4 Figuarative Figuarative includes the use of poetic devices, for example metaphor, simile, personification, alliteration, assonance and onomatopoeia. 5.5 Neologisms Neologisms are words that sound attractive and catchy are used in adverts because it seems to have been invented because they sound good. 6. Context Context is about the consumer and producer of advertising. 6.1 Producer Producers are the ones who make the adverts. Companies design and make the products which then, the products go to the producer to get pictures taken of and get used for advertisements. To make a successful advert, advertisers must add film language, AIDA, stereotypes, language, deign and layout, repetition and testimonials. 6.2 Consumer The consumer are the people who views or reads the text on an advert. On an average, 89% of the people said they don't think they could be influenced easily. 7. Conclusion Advertising has changed after so many years, people tend to get distracted and buy things that are not needs. Although many people on the surveys said the dont get influenced easy, i think that everyone has a weakness point. I believe that people do buy advertised products because they want something new, or want to get success with a particular product. If people didn't buy advertised products, bussinesses would be bankrupt by now, but they make so much profit, it is impossible for them to even think about closing the bussiness down. So you see, advertising isn't about the product no more, its all about the image and how it set out to look.

Advertising Report? Advertising Report 1. Introduction My report is based on advertising and how much it influences our behaviour and actions. Advertising is a type of communication aimed to sell a product, service and/or beliefs, by influencing the desired product to a specific target audience. Advertising is an competetive industry and is one of the top bussinesses around the world, spending over $385 billion dollars each year. Advertising is surrounding our everyday lives, for example, television, radio, movies, magazines, newspapers, video games, Internet etc. Even the smallest things that wouldn't cross our minds are still adverts, for example behind shopping reciepts, cinema coupons, SMS (short message service), telephone hold messages, side of buses and seats of grocery carts. It gives out messages that try to influence certain types of audiences with catchy headlines and attention grabbing phrases and very attractive men and women. 2.1 Symbolic codes Symbolic codes reflect the type of non-verbal communications we use in everyday life. Also are a way of getting extra attention on adverts. When I surveyed 30 people, 43% of the people said, product is the main thing they look for in an advert, while brand and person both got 16% and others got 23%. 2.1.1 Colours Colours bring out the effect of either older images or even the latest. Some advertising agencies decide to choose black and white colours because its a sign of an old classic touch. Also other agencies like to do bright colours to get more attention, because many people have difficulties in life and would like to see bright colours simply because it brings out very happy and cheerful thoughts that everyone would like to have in their lives. By looking at the Emporio Armani watch advert, you could tell that it is trying to manipulate the audience by allowing them to think the watch will stay forever and always look classic. 2.1.2 Costumes The style of clothing can tell you more about the historical date or type of character. 2.1.3 Setting The environment can suggest the type of product it will be representing or the type of person representing the product. 2.1.4 Body language In adverts, people try to use the right body language (head tilt, hip shift, bent knee, hand gesture, etc.) to show if someone is sad, happy, in love, angry, etc. and try to represent what the product is about. By looking at the Emporio Armani watch advert, you could see the ladys face is to the side and looking straight forward, trying to say its a straight forward watch, you will have no problems with it. 2.2 Written codes Any written information on the advert is classified into written codes. 2.2.1 Headings Headings tries to introduce you to the product, whether its the brand name or what the product is used for. For example in the Lux soap advert, the heading tells you how Hollywood stars use it and how they have nice clean skin all the time. 2.2.2 Catchphrases People don't have time to read the whole advert, so catch phrases are very catchy, even for a few seconds. Catchphrases are a way of tricking people on how good the product is, in a glimpse. When people tend to look at the advert they don't realise how bad the product is but always look on the good side of the product. 2.2.3 Product information Product information gives more information about the product. In the earlier days (1950's) people were not as busy as nowadays, they had time to read full length pages but now we are so busy that we tend to flick through the adverts, choosing the catchy and most appealing ones to read quickly. On the Aydes advert you could see how much writing there is and its telling more about the product and what the benefits are. 2.3 Technical Codes Technical codes rely on the technology of image to create meaning. 2.3.1 Shot type and angle Shot type and angle can be used to express point of view or the relationships between people and their environment. Camera angles can also be used to create an emotional meaning. 2.3.2 Lightning Lighting, such as brightness, dim light, or shadow can affect our response to the person in the advert or even the product. 3. A.I.D.A 3.1 Attention Adverts must captures the readers attention if they wish to get a good amount of people to buy the product. Producers must make the advertisement stand out, attention grabbing and unique. On my recent survey, 63% of the people said television was the most looked at advertisement. I believe people don't realize how much of things are actually advertised. 3.2 Interest When adverts have got the audiences attention, they must keep interest by using readers beliefs, values, attitudes and desires to keep them reading. 3.3 Desire To have a successful advert you will need the readers to have a desire, whether its losing weight or becoming more attractive. The main target is to make the audience feel more attractive and sexy with the product, usually trying to show a better life with the product. 3.4 Action Action is trying to get the advert to send some kind of invitation to get the readers by saying phrases like 'hurry last days' or 'stocks won't last', which makes the consumer believe they don't have much time. 4. Stereotypes Stereotypes are a way of grouping people together by the way they look and/or behave. It relies on symbols in order to group these people together. It is also used as a shortcut in communication so that the reader understands quickly about the characters, the advertisers want to portray. 5. Language 5.1 Connotative Connotative means symbols that have meaning, for example, red is a symbol for love, evil, death, blood. 5.2 Emotitive When words or visual images add either a positive or negative meaning to something we see, hear or believe. 5.3 Colloquial Colloquial is very informal, friendly, down to earth language, it includes abbreviations and contractions, use of idioms, most catch phrases and slogans. 5.4 Figuarative Figuarative includes the use of poetic devices, for example metaphor, simile, personification, alliteration, assonance and onomatopoeia. 5.5 Neologisms Neologisms are words that sound attractive and catchy are used in adverts because it seems to have been invented because they sound good. 6. Context Context is about the consumer and producer of advertising. 6.1 Producer Producers are the ones who make the adverts. Companies design and make the products which then, the products go to the producer to get pictures taken of and get used for advertisements. To make a successful advert, advertisers must add film language, AIDA, stereotypes, language, deign and layout, repetition and testimonials. 6.2 Consumer The consumer are the people who views or reads the text on an advert. On an average, 89% of the people said they don't think they could be influenced easily. 7. Conclusion Advertising has changed after so many years, people tend to get distracted and buy things that are not needs. Although many people on the surveys said they dont get influenced easy, i think that everyone has a weak point. I believe that people do buy advertised products because they want something new, or want to get success with a particular product. If people didn't buy advertised products, bussinesses would be bankrupt by now, but they make so much profit, it is impossible for them to even think about closing the bussiness down. So you see, advertising isn't about the product anymore, its all about the image and how it set out to look. is it good or bad and how can i improve it also any errors in my writing please

So does he hate me? We had a row, which is a shame because we were friends for so long.He is very hard to read.I never even knew he had feelings for me until he came out and said it.Occasionally he was a bit flirtatious,but I'm not a flirt so he toned it down and treated me with, what I thought, was respect.Well, as I said we had a row and he said some pretty nasty things to me and now sometimes he says hello, sometimes he doesn't.He seems really mad when he sees me, (even though I just took his comments and never retaliated), today I looked down at him and he just dropped his head and never looked back.He is friendly with everyone else, but that is usually the case when we are fighting, (we have only succeeded in being mates,not lovers).So I guess I want to know what the body language is for hate, when a man decides that he hates a woman?Help please and please don't be cruel.I am genuinely hurting here. Hi JK, we are both in our early forties..(I know, I feel like i'm in a teenage relationship again) I'm afraid that this is his non communicative way of telling me to f off.That's how he does business.Also, he really hurt me this time, so I feel that if I make the first move, he may just lose all respect for me

Sexually available? A question for the men (and women if u have experience of this)- when asking if men like to be asked out by women the overwhelming majority say yes, they love to be asked. But on a body language website i read that it's because he takes it that it means she is sexually available. My question is: if a girl wanted to develop a long-term relationship with you, as opposed to a fling or one night stand, should she refrain from asking u out so as not to send the wrong signals?

Would you be with a man with asperger? * Difficulty in forming friendships. * A preference for playing alone or with older children and adults. * Ability to talk well, either too much or too little, but difficulty with communication. * Inability to understand that communication involves listening as well as talking. * A very literal understanding of what has been said. For example, when asked to 'get lost', as in go away, a person with Asperger syndrome will be confused and may literally try to 'get lost'. * Inability to understand the rules of social behaviour, the feelings of others and to 'read' body language. For example, a person with Asperger syndrome may not know that someone is showing that they are cross when frowning. * Behaviour varies from mildly unusual to quite aggressive and difficult. * Having rules and rituals that they insist all family members follow. * Anger and aggression when things do not happen as they want. * Sensitivity to criticism. # A narrow field of interests. For example a person with Asperger syndrome may focus on learning all there is to know about cars, trains or computers. # Eccentricity. * Normal or higher than average intelligence. * Extensive vocabulary - but many people have difficulty with the practical use of language (see above). * Expertise in their chosen topic of interest - although this can become difficult in social situations as they may only talk about one topic. * Excellent factual memory for their chosen topic of interest * Dedication and commitment to their job if they work in a supportive environment and their job is suited to their interests. * The drive to perform well at school or work, if given a supportive and inclusive environment.

What are the signs a woman is jealous of another woman? HERE'S THE "WHAT IF" SCENARIO: One woman loves a man, who definitely didn't love her, nor wanted a long term commitment, & f(*k buddies only. No dates, meeting friends/family & so on. He was honest & had to remind her often, NO WAY on the love & commitment, f(*k buddies only. He breaks it off w/her, 5mos later found a gf he really loves & lives with, old FB knows this. Runs into them while out shopping. The guy introduces them, current gf knows of past FB situation, not jealous, as it's past & everyone has a past. When he's present, I'm curious of the tell tail signs old FB is jealous. What is the body language shown to read her level of jealously? Also, what are the subtle things she would say? Don't need to know the obvious mean stuff, just body language, sentences/words used that are usually missed or excused. Looking forward to reading your comments. Thanks Thank you pinelake. Your explanation of jealousy and emotion being a connection to fear was insightful. If I have interpreted your response correctly, you have explained how the current gf would feel and deal with jealousy. The scenario proposed though, is how to detect and interpret subtle verbal and body language jealousy displayed not from the gf, but from the old FB. I would love to read your knowledge of spotting jealous body language and spoken words. I’m sure those will be good as well.

Why have churches sold out to the government? Obtaining Corporation Status (501c3) is Against God The word "church" is not meant to refer to any physical building, but refers to the worldwide body of believers in Christ. The word "church" (ecclesia in Greek - called out ones) does not refer to any organization, no matter it's name or legal status. Keep that in mind when reading this article. It is time for Christians to wake up and turn back to God. We need to turn to the Lord and repent of our sins that we have committed against Him. We need to ask for forgiveness of tolerating idolatry that removes His Sovereignty over His Church. To see that the Church is in grave danger we must have a clear understanding of what a corporation is. We also need to realize what the courts have ruled about corporations and that a corporation has no rights, only privileges, granted by the "estate." To become a corporation removes the authority of the Lord over a corporate church and puts it under the bondage of man's law. According to man, The State is Sovereign over its Corporations 1. "A corporation is a creature of the state. It is presumed to be incorporated for the benefit of the public. It receives certain special privileges and franchises and holds them subject to the laws of the state and the limitation of its charter. Its powers are limited by law. It can make no contract not authorized by its charter. Its rights to act as a corporation are only preserved to it so long as it obeys the laws of its creation. There is a reserved right in the legislature to investigate its contracts and ascertain if it has exceeded its powers" (Hale v. Henkel, 201 U.S. 43) 2. "[A corporation is] an artificial person or legal entity created by or under the authority of the laws of a state. An association of persons created by statute as a legal entity.... The corporation is distinct from the individuals who comprise it (shareholders).... Such an entity subsists as a body politic under a special denomination, which is regarded in law as having a personality and existence distinct from that of its several members." Black's Law Dictionary West Publishing Company, 1991; 6th Edition, page 340. 3. "A corporation derives its existence and all of its powers from the State and, therefore, has only such powers as the State has conferred upon it. Power is used here to mean the legal capacity to execute and fulfill the objects and purposes for which the corporation was created, and the source of this power is the charter and the statute under which the corporation was organized." Len Young Smith and G. Gale Roberson, Smith and Roberson's Business Law, West Publishing Company, 1966, page 796. A corporation derives its existence and all of its power from the State. The church on the other hand was created by and is the body of Christ. We belong to Him and we are subject to Him and His Laws. The source of any church's power is supposed to be the Holy Spirit; it's authority to function solely from God. 4. "Corporate existence is a privilege granted by the sovereign upon compliance with specified conditions" Len Young Smith and G. Gale Roberson, Smith and Roberson's Business Law, West Publishing Company, 1966, page 931. . 5. "Corporations are not citizens.... The term citizen... applies only to natural persons... not to artificial persons created by the legislature" Paul v. Virginia, 8 Wall. 168, 177; see also the Opinion of Field, J., in the Slaughterhouse Cases, 16 Wall.36,99 The Word of God teaches us that Christians, His Holy Church, are citizens of the household of God (Eph.2:19). 6. Every corporation has obtained a charter from the State of Incorporation. This charter is simply permission to exist given to the corporation (by the State!) without which, its operations would be considered illegal. In addition to the charter are the articles of incorporation: "The objects or purposes for which a corporation is formed are expressly stated in its articles of incorporation, which delineate in general language the type of business activities in which the corporation proposes to engage" Smith and Roberson's Business Law, West Publishing Company, 1966, page 798. 7. "Instances of non-profit corporations are educational institutions, athletic clubs, library clubs, fraternities, sororities, hospitals, and organizations which have exclusively a charitable purpose" Smith and Roberson's Business Law, West Publishing Company, 1966, page 789. (Note: The purpose of the church is not "charity," nor is it's purpose exclusively charitable. Charity should be a function of every church, but is certainly not it's purpose. Offering worship to God, evangelism to the lost, and the fellowship and equipping of the saints are among church's exclusive purposes. (gm) The Lord is Sovereign over His Churches : Jesus is the Head of the Church, not man Paul compares the special relationship of Christ and His church to the God giving relationship of man and wife. What can be closer or more special then this? Would you bring another person into your marriage to control it with worldly principles? I hope the answer is no. Then why would you bring in a "fictitious entity" no less created by the state and man i.e.: corporation, to run and regulate something that belongs to the Lord? The relationship with Jesus and His Church belongs to Him alone. He is the Head of the Church and as such He governs it with His Laws, Principles and Directions. After all He is our King and is Sovereign over His Church. To become a corporation in effect divorces the church from Christ. We also commit idolatry by putting something before Him. Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Christ is the Saviour of the body (the church); not the state. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. The church is subject to Christ not the state. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; Christ has purchased the church with His own blood. The State can give nothing for the church and should give nothing to the church. 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. The church should be holy and without blemish, to mingle the church with the state/worldly system is to bring spot and wrinkle to the church because of what the state/world does and says, homosexuality, abortion, adultery and many other things are acceptable, they pass laws making them that way. This goes against God; should the church be partakers of that? 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: The Lord nourishes and cherishes the church. Throughout history the state has tried to destroy the church. It still does through legislation trying to control all aspects of the free and corporate church. 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. The church is a living organism with a living head and body. Therefore the church is not a religious organization. It is possible to be a religious or charitable organization without being a church. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. The church is to be joined unto Christ. In Matthew Jesus used the word cleave. I do not see that the church is to be joined to Christ and the state. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. He speaks of the relationship that the church is supposed to have with Christ. One that is supposed to be holy and true. One, that's with each other without interference, blessed. Eph 1:20 Which he wrought in Christ, when he raised him from the dead, and set him at his own right hand in the heavenly places, 21 Far above all principality, and power, and might, and dominion, and every name that is named, not only in this world, but also in that which is to come: 22 And hath put all things under his feet, and gave him to be the head over all things to the church Christ is to be all things to the church. He is in Charge and Head of the church not the state. The state is under His feet, it is the footstool of the Lord why put it ahead of Him? 23 Which is his body, the fullness of him that filleth all in all. KJV There are more Scriptures that would support that Jesus is the sole authority over the church. Most of us Christians know this and believe this. I challenge my brothers and sisters to find them. Study them, to see if the Truth is being brought forth. Jesus Christ Should Be The Head Of The Church - Why Then Incorporate? Many people for some reason think that a church has to. This is far from the truth on a few different levels. Here in the United States of America a church does not have to incorporate at all to be recognized as a local body of believers. (Not sure why they would want recognition from the state anyway.) I know some of you are thinking "Well, Romans 13 says..." Most of us have been taught that whatever the government says, goes. Wrong! If the government passes a law that interferes or contradicts one of Gods law we are not bound to follow it. There are examples of this in the Bible ; we have all heard the story of Daniel and the lions' den. To think Christians are bound by the laws of men, when it comes to the work of the Kingdom, is just stupid. If this were the case the church in Russia, China, Middle East and other places - if they listened to Romans 13 the way it is applied now - would never have seen growth. How about the brothers/sisters that smuggled Bibles into the old Soviet Block, China, Cuba and others? Whose law did they break? Man's. The local government's. They may be held accountable for their actions by men, they might even lose their lives. Guess what? God will reward them for their actions. They were doing the work of the Kingdom. I know most of us have heard that Federal law supercedes state law. State law supercedes county, city and town law, and so on and so forth. Guess what? The law of God supercedes all of man's law when it goes against His own (Acts 4:18-19). The point is even if there was a law requiring churches to incorporate we would not be bound to do so. In doing so we would be removing the Lordship of Jesus and giving it to the state. Thank God we have not reached this point yet in this country but don't be fooled, its coming. Why then do churches incorporate? 1. They think they have to. 2. They feel it gives them some benefit. 3. They think it gives them prestige. 4. Asset protection. 5. Think it's the only way gifts are tax deductible. 6. Think its okay with God. 7. They have always done it that way. The list could go on, I'm sure we could all find some earthly reasons why we think incorporating would be a good idea. We Still Think It's The Law - Show me Otherwise If you still think it's the law and that would make any difference to you in your relationship with the Lord, I will show you differently: "Congress shall make no law regarding an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof" (U.S. Constitution, First Amendment). According to the Internal Revenue Code, "a church, its integrated auxiliaries, and conventions and associations of the church are excluded from taxation." United States Code, Title 26, 508(c)(1)(A). Section 508(c) of the Internal Revenue Code provides that churches are not required to apply for recognition of Section 501(c)(3) status in order to be exempt from federal taxation or to receive tax deductible contributions. Churches are automatically exempt from Federal income tax, and contributions to churches are deductible by donors under section 170. Elsewhere, the IRS states: "Although a church, its integrated auxiliaries, or a convention of churches is not required to file Form 1023 to be exempt from federal income tax or to receive tax deductible contributions, such an organization may find it advantageous to obtain recognition of exemption (Tax Exempt Status for Your Organization, IRS Publication 557). Just what "advantage" is there for a church in obtaining 501(c)(3) recognition and thereby exchanging its sovereignty for a subordinate status in relation to the federal government? Most people would answer that such grants the church exemption from taxation. However, we have already seen that the federal government has never been able to tax the Church of Christ; the Church is not exempt from taxation, it is immune. The "advantage" is something else entirely: "By establishing its exemption, potential contributors are assured by the [Internal Revenue] Service that contributions will be deductible" Tax Exempt Status for Your Organization, IRS Publication 557. The tragic irony of all this is that, according to the Internal Revenue Code, financial donations to an unregistered, unincorporated church are automatically tax-deductible (26 USC 170-B). The government has no constitutional authority over the Church. It is not allowed to violate the First Amendment protection that the constitution provides. In fact the government may not infringe on any of our constitutional rights at all. They have found a way around this of course. To hold out an unbiblical advantage hoping an ignorant clergy person will take the bait and bring the church into voluntary compliance by forming a 501( C )(3) corporation, thus placing the church under the authority of the state. Once the church has been transformed into a corporation it then becomes subject to control by federal and state governments. In truth an incorporated church is no longer a church!! but merely a non-profit organization. Once a church incorporates the new non-profit organization is subject to total control by the government. You will be controlled on who you hire, what you can and cannot preach. You cannot conflict with public policy nor assault the hearer's sense of mental well being, self-esteem, sexual orientation etc. You can be sued. The IRS prohibits such organizations from "carrying on propaganda, or otherwise attempting to influence legislation" (26 USC 501-C-3). This prohibition extends, not only to the endorsement of a political candidate, but also any other attempts to "influence legislation," including taking a public stand against such government-protected abominations, such as abortion or homosexuality. Now, the church is discovering that favors from Washington, DC have strings attached. In this case, the string is a rope that is being used to throttle her once-powerful voice, to squeeze out her very life and, eventually, to hang her by the neck until dead! History Of Our New Nation: One of the reason people came to the new land was to get away from the entanglements of the old world. Quite a few of the reasons dealt with the issue of church and state. People where fleeing a repressive regime where there was a state-sponsored church or the church was running the governments. It was bad enough that people picked up and left. Now we seem to be returning to what our forefathers left on our own free will. We are taking a license to preach from the state, being told what we can and can't say. One of the things that inspired Patrick Henry's speech "Give Me Liberty Or Give Me Death" was, he saw a man being beaten for preaching the gospel without a license. If we forget history we are doomed to repeat it. We as Christians need to wake up and take a stand. One thing that sticks in my mind is when I got married : "By the power vested in me by God and the State of California I now...." What Do I Do Now? (This section will not be favored by corporate Pastor/Ministers.) 1. You became incorporated, become unincorporated. 2. Talk to your Pastor/Minister about this important issue. 3. Rescind your membership in an incorporated church. 4. Don't incorporate. 5. Don't support incorporated churches. 6. Find an unincorporated church. 7. Start an unincorporated church. 8. Study Your Bible Daily. 9. Pray for the Body of Christ. 10. Witness and lead people to a personal relationship with Jesus. I know finding an unincorporated church will be a real chore, as there are not many out there. There is also a real need to hear and study the word. If you must go to an incorporated church I suggest not becoming a member. I know this is not the norm but we have to remember who the head of the church is, and especially, that we are not join to ourselves to a harlot. Churches which have (knowingly or not) substituted the authority of Christ with sinful man's demonically-influenced word system fit this description. This issue has weighed on my spirit for a long time. I'm guilty of idolatry for finding things to put before Him in the writing of this paper. I was led to write this and now it's almost done. I only pray that God will get the glory, eyes and hearts will be opened and His Will be done. I realize this paper will not make me many friends. I know this, but that was not the point. I pray people will take the time to search out what The Word has to say on this issue. I'm certain many people will come to the same conclusion and we can restore the Lordship of Jesus Christ to his rightful place over HIS church. Acts 17:11 These were more noble than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so. KJV A Servant of the King, Yashua Ha Mashiach, Jesus, the Messiah What Now? For more information on this topic go to http://www.theantichurch.org/501c3churchinfo.htm All information presented here is done so under the protection of the First, Fourth, Ninth, and Tenth Amendment of the United States Constitution. No warranty of accuracy is intended or implied, but merely reflects the best of my current non-professional research into these matters, to date. Nothing here should be interpreted or taken as legal advice, as I am not an attorney, and Guy Malone - who has posted it, but not written it - assumes no responsibility for any actions resulting from believing or acting upon this material; everything presented should be thoroughly researched against the Holy Bible, U.S. and State laws for your area, and with God and your conscience before taking any action from reading this material

Agenesis of the corpus callosum and Aspergers/Autism? I have this rare Neurological Condition called Agenisis of the Corpus Callosum. Lately I have been reading up on Aspergers Syndrome and seeing that I have alot of similarities that I share with alot of Aspies. I have a pretty exceptional photographic memory, and can regurgitate alot of facts I have read. I also learned that Kim Peek one of the most famous people with ACC was the inspiration for "Rain Man" a movie about Autism and not ACC. Some additional details are that I am a 32 year old male. Although I have ACC I look physically normal and do not show any physical difficulties except a few strained facial expressions from time to time. I have dated and had relationships in the past but have had trouble maintaining steady ones. I have a hard time reading body language and such. When I was young I was also very afraid of loud noises and also I did alot of hand flapping when I got excited or when I was engaged in play.

hi iam bipolar i cant seem to hold a job down? I am a man who loves his family which is the strongest thing going for me , i take my meds regularly,but cant seem to roll with the normal day to day grind of negative interaction in a nut shell low tolerance to bull shit and mind games you would find any where i guess ,i seem to have the drive to want to get back on my feet every time i leave a position but cant seem to hold one is there any one out there,i do have to admit i read a lot of body language which is automatic in my case developed from security and sales roles which seems to compound things getting desperate now at 49 the weights packing on,and i would love to get to 65 be around my grand kids. My family love me to all though this has been hard on them for the last 15 years any ideas on physco therapy will continue to strive for happiness and the right to live on this planet ,not just to take but to contribute to.Dad with a big heart who wants to make a living.

What the hell is wrong with me? I’m a 15 year old male living in England. I’ve suffered from trauma throughout my life due to my dad’s manic episodes. His last episode was his most severe one so far. It’s costed me my sanity. This is an account not a summary. I was stuck in my house for 3 months not being about to get out or talk to anybody outside. If my mom would try to call the police or mental health services my dad would threaten to slit her throat with a bread knife. He would verbally and psychologically abuse her, sometimes coming downstairs naked to get some food late at night while my mom was in the living room. He would tell her that his life full of scars and **** (his first wife died of cancer while he was in an institution, he second wife left him while he was doing a stage production overbroad during a past manic episode) When my mom first met him they fell in love, 3 years later he had another manic episode and she first discovered that he had manic-depression. 6 years after that I was born. He still had manic episodes. I remember was I was 2 I was happy until there was a time when my dad started to play loud music again and argue with my mum, I had fits of anger and rage combined with nightmares and crying. I couldn’t remember which dreams were real which were not. I really felt happy when I was a kid. I didn’t feel I was in the same world as everybody else. I was diagnosed with Asperger syndrome when I was 6. When I was 10 my dad had another big manic episode. I threatened to kill myself. I was told for the first time that my dad had manic depression. It makes sense because my dad’s family were relatives of Ernest Hemmingway who was suspected to have had manic depression. Two summers when my family went on holiday to stay with some relatives abroad, my dad had another manic episode. My mom spent the rest of the week planning for us to go home in advance. Once we got back my dad’s psychiatrist was on holiday, and when he came for an evaluation at the house my dad fooled him by appearing well and trying to make it look like my mom was the one who was crazy. He started shouting at the mental health team every time they mentioned residential care or institution. This is because in the 70s he was locked up in a psychiatric asylum and beaten by nurses while being pumped full of lithium carbonate, which dulled his mind and destroyed his acting career. This is the reason why he hasn’t taken any medication since. But he did start to take Olanzapine, which didn’t improve his episode. During the 3 months of the episode he tried to organise a concert with Paul McCartney, which he has done in every single manic episode before. My mum became crazy and I had to become the man of the house, I had fights with my dad, my dad experienced psychosis. I started to experience psychosis myself; I attempted to kill my dad. I started to make a hit list of all of the people I planed to kill at school. I planned to become a commander of my school; organising a mafia like consortium. When it came to September and I had to go back to school, my dad’s manic episode started to get better. But in order to drive me to school he had to stop taking the Olanzapine, which caused his episode to get even worse than before. He started to go back into psychosis and full blown megalomania. He believed he was a genius and started walking down the local market shouting at people and telling them that the world is corrupt and decadent. When I had to go back to school I started to hear voices. They were telling me to kill certain people in my class. They were also telling me that I am worthless and weak. The old version of me was weak and pathetic. I had to replace him the new superior superhuman version that will bring justice and security to everybody around him. Around that time after a fight with my dad I threw my fist through a glass door, causing severe injuries resulting in me being sent to hospital When I waiting in the hospital with many other people, I started to believe they were analysing AND reading my mind by looking subtle hints from my body language. I kept to places around where there weren’t many people. And if there were I would either shout at them or run away. One time two months after the trauma, I got up in the middle of the night and went downstairs to the living room. I believed that I was a Roman Emperor giving a political speech to senators of the opposition in an auditorium in Rome. It ended up with me beating the cushions crying and shouting, and my mom coming downstairs to calm me down. I stopped going to school that autumn. The voices stopped. The megalomania stopped. The flashbacks and memories of the trauma stopped. I started to isolate myself in my own room with just myself and my computer. My only connection I had to the outside world. I had to internalise myself and in my head I created the new far more powerful version of me. There were several personalities in my head: the megalomaniac, the hero, the crazy feral kid, and a few others…. The January of the next year, I was ordered a psychiatrist and a psychotherapist by the local government. The psychiatrist prescribed me Seroquel an atypical antipsychotic. I refused to take it because I didn’t want to be sedated. 3 months later I had physical aches and I started to believe I had a brain tumour. I became depressed and thought about suicide. My dad said he was overwrought of how badly the episode messed my mind up, that decided to take a chronic mood stabiliser to never let this happen again. My psychiatrist came again in May, evaluated me again and diagnosed me with depression. She prescribed me Prozac, it improved my depression, but it didn’t make me any happier. I became irritable and aggressive and started hallucinating and experienced paranoia on 20mg, it was moved down to 10mg and I started to fell better. Eventually that August I started intense weight training and running and that helped me a lot more than Prozac. Gradually I started to go outside again, and feel normal outside without getting vertigo. After that I started better being around other people. For some reason I started to experience mania and psychosis again, probably due to the Prozac, even though I hadn’t changed the dosage. The drug started to become less effective though time. I went back to school in September, even though I haven’t managed to stay there consistently, my psychiatrist hasn’t done anything about I stop going in November. Hopefully I can get back this January when school starts. Anther thing I wanna say is that my dad’s a great guy for almost all of the time, even though I argue with him sometimes and the fact that he has mood swings and short depressive episodes, he only has a manic episode every 2-4 years only in the summer. And hopefully now he’s taking meds he won’t have anther one for a while. What I’d like you guys to do is tell me what I should do right here right now, remembering that the UK has a stupid universal healthcare system. Sure it’s for everybody but that doesn’t mean its any good. I’m not psychotic, depressive or manic right now, I’m feeling normal. I’m also planning to move to America in my late teens. I don’t want you to diagnose me; I just want you to suggest what disorder/s I might have. This is very important for me; I’ve been spending a lot of time researching mental illnesses to find the right one. I’ve realised that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger and that’s what I know these experiences have done for me.

How do you leave someone you really love? I'm in a terrible situation. Before you judge my situation from what you read, please don't tell me the feelings aren't genuine, etc. This is a very sensitive thing to me. I fell in love with a married man. He is very unhappily married. His wife can some into our place of work and they barely acknowledge each other. They fight constantly. Shes threatening divorce, he's threatening divorce, yet neither takes action. I'm pregnant with his child. It was a planned pregnancy. He tells me that he wants to leave his wife very badly and has even promised me he will before the baby comes. His words tell me that hes going to leave, but his actions really don't and his body language doesn't. I'm really fed up with all of this. We think about each other 24/7. We spend all of our time with each other. He's with me all day. I've never felt so in love with a man as I do now, and I can tell by his eyes and the way he talks to me he feels the same way. Why won't he leave? I'm so stressed of wondering not WHEN he will leave (as he said he's going to) but IF he will actually ever leave. People are finding out about relationship. He doesn't care they're finding out, I don't either. I just want him to myself so we can raise our baby. BUT, as I said, I'm so stressed out. I'm tired of waking up depressed over him everyday and falling asleep in tears over him. I believe that if he loves me he will be with me. Afterall, how can you tell someone you love them if you're unable to comitt? My question is, how can I leave this man when I love him with ALL my heart and I know he loves me too? Should I wait to see if he does indeed leave his wife(He said within a year) or should I make him think I'm going to break up with him so he'll take action on leaving his wife faster, or should I just really leave and just forget him. By the way, there are no kids at his home. They're all grown up.Please help me figure this out. :(

Shamanism, how do you recognize a fake ? My friends daughter is going to marry a man who claims to be a Shaman. I did some research on the subject and I do not find it to be a bad thing, if it is real. Most of the shamans I read about are basically like medecine men. Healers and helpers. Kind and tolerant. Mild mannered, not offensive to others. Is this a wrong conception on my part? Sure would like to know. This man, I guess, is very rude to others. His persona is that of one that does not allow anyone to know what he is thinking. And they said he stands with his arms folded over chest alot. In body language this would have a significant meaning but I dont remember what it is. This wedding is going to take place soon. I read some of the info on here and it kinda scares me, when they brought up the use of drugs to do this "shaman" thing. Hallucinatory drugs. I took LSD when young and this just doesnt sound good. I would sure love to hear from anyone who knows ANY thing about this subject at all. TY, Lainey